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What is Spiritual intelligence (SQ)? Conscienceness, Awareness, Inner freedom, Ego and God

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Quick view of Four intelligences | Stephen Covey| 

1- What is Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) | 

2- The state of inner Freedom by Dr. David R Hawkins | Excerpts from book Letting Go | Reading with Maratib Ali Shad, co-hosted by Jeanne Ruud | 

What does life become when one continuously surrenders?

What is possible?

3- Three levels of consciousness by Dr. Deepak Chopra | Excerpts from book Spiritual Solutions | with Maratib Ali Shad

  • Level 1 – Contracted Awareness
  • Level 2 – Expanded Awareness
  • Level 3 – Pure Awareness

4- Discussion Questions | Psycho path | Ego Vs God_Conscience|  

 

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Terrorist and his development of SELF

Globally, We all are deeply shocking and still in terrible emotional state of mind after terrorist attack on two mosques in Christchurch, New Zealand on 15th March 2019. Every mind and heart are tense, fearful and in anger then before. Condemnation and expressions of shocks are broadcasting on all media and at mass levels.

I am deeply concerned here on empathetic level about mindset of the killer who is willingly to give not only his life but also killing to one, dozens or hundreds of other people whether in the name of formal war, or undeclared attacked for sake of nationalism, regions, racism, communities and religions etc. I am here also including those formal armies and their arsenal of all countries who feel proud to sacrifice their life for national interest in form of army service personnel or freedom fighter or being a real terrorist. Actually, that gunman using the name Brenton Tarrant may consider himself as freedom fighter who had specific agenda. He opened fire on dozens of innocent children, women and men , mercilessly , in such a way that he is going to be awarded by his god or his ego after shooting? Since, he was planning that incident from last two years therefore he must had highest degree of conviction to do it , locate it and done it. What forces and psycho-trauma he must be in that did not stop him not to kill even children on that day!

There are dozen of such incidents happening around the world for sake of agenda on individuals, group or national level in form of terrorism, wars or name of freedom fighting etc.

I believe that every case is different than other and causes or reasons are also different, however, there is one common element in all killings is everyone is driven by their emotions triggered by environment of depressiveness, mis-guidance, bearing injustice or fears of future etc. Our nurturing of being insecure and self-defence creates a ego that connects with ego of many people around us and it multiply and connect and reconnect with his identity circles where he or she belongs to until it reaches on the level where he or she feel really threat for his or her entire community or region. This heat wave is triggered by those political or socio-economic powers who use or mis-use them for definite or indefinite political agendas. Our whole world and mostly countries have very cruel history of bloodshed especially in last 125 year where entire world history or geographical lines had been changes completely. World War 1, Second World War, Cold War, Holocaust, ethnic cleansing war and War against terrorism etc have been witnesses millions of millions corpses. More importantly, how world has been changing dramatically in terms of socio-economic crises, poverty, pollution, scientism, extremism, racism, suicide rate, gap between poor and rich, imbalance of resources, rise of ignorance/crime etc. are outcome of these wars and aggression. When a country or nation does war for 5 years , they suffer for next 50 years at-least.

Have you ever try to look insight of a killer? Was he or she like always ? or he or she is product of what our societies would planted in their hearts to become suicide bomber or deathly killer for someone or community or nation ?

Let’s have a look inside person who is turn into terrorist. As a whole a terrorist is a fragmented person more like a victim who is influenced by culture of its own and its associations consciously or in consciously. Throughout his mind is rippling with feeling being a victim or deprived person or part of community who never be given justice what he or his community deserve. His thoughts generates such emotions where he can fulfil his negative conscience i.e. Evil Ego. This ego is super-faith for him or his community to motivate his body to plot such a successful or influential act of incidents where they can justify their acts and watering their ego.

This combination of his fragmented SELF with body, mind, heart and spirit will generate of no shared vision and very personal sense of pledge. Although that Terrorist will have definite values however, these values will misaligned with social normals he keeps. That will turn him a secret or scary character and he may feel arrogance, privately. This level of lower and self-deceptive ego pushes his emotions to generate disempowerment continuously and frequently until he will execute his plan according to what he plots, no matter he would save his life or die. I believe this does not happens over night or in months. Actually, this is result of our social and selfish agendas where we inspire from, unfortunately. When we choose and select our heroes and they do not follow any accepted ethical system of morality than scary character are nurtures everywhere.

I am here to notify you the importance of self-development for all of us. If our educational systems in all countries are designed to develop such a character ethics who does not have any hatred or prejudice against other nation or group, as compared to work or nurturing only personality ethics where they can groom their linguistics and should be able to earn great amount of monies after completing their formal education only ?

Do we have places (not religious places) where they can go and work on their self to identify their original SELF and start to live their life peaceful under projection of SELF? What I mean that is there any secular (non-religious places) where they can groom their humanistic values and integrity with peace and compassion?

Why we do not go church or those places where we can feel peace, harmony and real respect for others? Why we hate religion so much that we have ignore our personal and emotional purity from bad or evil entirely?

Do we not know that we all are one as HUMAN BEING. We are not different. It is our national agenda who made us different from other, who make me superior to other nation or races without dignity and humanism.

Billion dollars industry of self-development is growing and growing every year for name of making successful people in their live. Ironically, their purification of thoughts and hearts are still on same degree of level where they started to become Life Coaches, Leadership development trainers or multi-million worth motivational speakers! Are we able to clean those bias, prejudice and hatred from our audience and fans?

On contrary the works of Saints, Sufi(s), Yogi(s), Buddhists and many other peach loving groups have contributed significantly to the world in order to spread values like Love, Mercy, non-violence etc based on compassion, morality and universal brotherhood. Their millions of followers are not only trying to enlightenment their spirits of life but it candles to other millions.

The essence of Personal development is in identify and discovery of SELF that nature has put inside to each and single individuals on this plant earth. I believe we need to write and communicate and research world not only in our academia but also in our political offices. Future is universal brotherhood. There is not even single wave of terrorism will live on our earth. Every human is reflection of other human. Our identity is human and being human we must love human and spread it for not our genuine and peaceful living but also to get rid of our historical generation to generation biases and prejudices. We must heal our selves through a giant collective efforts where all communities must live with peace and spirit of compassion with each other , living with present , not with past.

Since, that terrorist has not identify his true self therefore he will be under misguidance by his super-ego and mental distortions, delusions or illusions.

Let’s stop ourselves from being affecters of waves of terrorism, aggression, wars, atomic weapons and having inferior feelings about others.

We are about to live in age of wisdom where values are dignity, following own voice to inspire other to find their voices, with compassion and love.

As Allah says in Quran:

“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted”. (49:13)

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The Origin of absolute Success –a call for an inquiry (Western civilisation in contrast with Spiritual Enlightenment)

The idea of being Successful is extremely relative and depends on personal and popular or accepted popular culture. All previous civilisation(s) and modernised societies have their vague concept of success, whether they believe in omnipotent some form of God or believe that this universe is running without God. Eastern philosophical schools of thoughts and ideas related to God and its implications upon the society had produced a very different type of nation-product. Good examples are Taoism, the influence of Siddhartha Ghotam Buddha etc had a remarkable positive influence on Eastern Civilisation in the regions such as China, India etc. Their idea of success was built on moral or divine values and culture of non-violence, self-purification, brotherhood, healing, simplicity, de-attachment with the world desires etc. This led people to live peacefully and way-out from their life issues. It could be possible by idea of true SELF and its enrichment by certain methods of bearing hardships and suppress their wishes those produces discomforts and immense grief. That form “Spiritual Enlightenment” which were proudly based on Eastern school of thoughts that influenced China, India, Pakistan, South or East Russia, Nepal & Japan etc for thousands of years.

On the contrary, western school of thought developed an absolutely new way of the idea of success based on power, money, politics, sex, war, scientism, capitalism etc. Idea of communication via languages & idea of ‘Construction’ have positive impact on the world however severe limitation of languages have impacted on the world in the way people are unable to unleash their potential. No doubt, monies, power, technological & scientific advancement have empowered the nations at one side at certain extent on superficial level. That had designed a new way of thinking and paradigms of newly born civilisation based on “Western Enlightenment” It had formed by series of renaissance movements one after another, after Dark Ages in fifteen centuries ago. Apart from many sincere religious movements from Church in the west, people kicked the idea of God because all un-fullfilment desires could be filled or accomplished with straight forward or empirical & scientific way of thinking and lifestyle. They thought because they can produce countless food, commodities and see their future through farming and industrial revolution, therefore, their renaissance or new reality of being successful, therefore, Good bye Church.

What I mean that we are merely born to look beautiful, living in great life style to influence thousands of external lives and having enough monies only?

Do we really know about how we will pain and suffering when we are in illness physically? What about when we feel intense & permanent loneliness or have poor relationships? Imagine when we do not have really life goals or discipline to maintain? Especially we do not have any mission statement? Are these all failures not with mostly all of us in modern times, unfortunately? Especially, Western societies are full of these people, unfortunately because of following fake and temporary superficial realities.

End results of both way of Enlightenment (s) are in progress. Both ways have grabbed billions of fellowships with them and both have advantages. Especially, Western civilisation and their success in science, language, politics, literature have given them clear edge over east superficially.

Most prominent Western civilisational hero, America, had produced and formulated success literature, in millions of quantities of books have been written and available in the market. Of course, almost all books publishing in the west claim to have monies, capital and resource is actually ultimate success, especially if you are feeling happy personally and you have large fellowship on the internet, and it multiplies to millions. Thousands of trainers, Coaches, mentors in the field of Personal Development have their product for the people to make them successful and they are earning millions every year. And, thousands of motivational speakers & trainers have net annual earnings in millions of dollars.  Now big question is that are their contribution to the world is really making any real difference to the world as whole?

They are very successful speakers to motivate millions of audiences to achieve their goals in different roles of life.

Now most profound question is that what type of product they are creating. Do we need to achieve success without any principle cantered paradigms, or we just need success whatever we want?

Do we have identified our origin of SELF or ultimate truth about ourselves, about universe or about God?

Are our teachings or trainings are based on some natural or universal principles such as law of gravity, law of harvest or we are just doing some quick fix to feed our business accounts and bank balances?

Has number of successful (rotational) achievements in my life (as per my will) attempted to find answers of these fundamental questions? Are they really important to sort this puzzle in our life? Or it is enough to being selfish for ourselves that we are very happy on our private or public victories?

How many of living legends are discussing to know ultimate truth in their gathering or on internet?

It is merely all look business activities going on to buy motivational books or attending motivational events across the globe, especially in the West.

 I am sorry to be being really estimating the things or yourself or making the current realities over-simplified, however, these questions or thoughts are arising inside of me which is very deep.

My career or working in industry of Life Coaching or Personal development, more than 7 years, in the United Kingdom, has pushed my sincerity to discover the reasons to know about fundamental questions as discussed above.

Imagine that all success stories, ideas to becoming successful entrepreneur, celebrity, great scientists & literary person, even becoming teacher etc. are actually lies and mis-representation of actual reality? The ideas of success or principles which I am worshipping them like religion, I would bring disclose that all these were bullshits and lies? Because you were in wrong paradigms from centuries? How will be respond on it? If we don’t know what is ultimately truth being a human or part of this universe than where we will go?

If there is no success which we are assuming as reality, do not exist actually? Than what and how we will feel?

I am not saying that all believes of success, communications, ideas, scientific inventions or discoveries are in rational lies, however, we need an inquiry, certainly, to discover the truth that have been forgotten with our ancestors. We need to go back and research from scratch who I am? What is real reality? What is God? If I would find these questions than any theories derive based on absolute truth we discover, will be ultimate success.

If we are agreeing on inquiry for search absolute truth than we can access bookish and spiritual experiential resources. We need to investigate not only on spiritual meditation level but also with mental intelligence.

In current world, Spiritual Enlightenment has been describing in various perspective but I am encouraging reader of this article, towards the idea lying almost all religious schools such as Buddhist, Sufi, Yogi, Christian Monks & Zen etc. The reason why, they have been trained from thousands of centuries in the quest or real experience of answering the profound questions I have raised previously. These school of thoughts have very well-organised meditation way of system to knowing the ultimate reality. Also, on intellectual level, they have hundreds of distinguished authors and divine scripts to inquire.

My journey to search truth will continue and I also looking same mind-like people to work together. If you are interested, please contact me on maratib@maratibalishad.com

 

 

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A child shapes your character and personality and basically governs your whole life?

In today’s domains of management gurus, psychology experts and biologists scientists are choosing their preferences from very interesting discussion that how much important nature or nurture in the success of an individual or there is other reality as well? In addition, how much important is actually, the age of childhood in shaping one’s life.
I think this is very fundamental question comes in the mind. Many theories and interpretations have been discussed in academia and in leadership development training institutes.
Is it really genetic or environmental or psychic causes or there is another fact beyond it? Sometime people become so determinist and sometime optimistic. On the other hand God has sent down man to contribute and live to leave legacy, how much this believe is so powerful or thoughtful.
My Purpose is to explore to see different point of views and at the end we can find some comprehensive outcomes.

Nurture or Nature

Nurture or Nature

Last week, I put this discussion on Facebook and LinkedIn and asked many people and experts on different networks on internet. I found various responses and different perspective for this great quest.
Let me tell you first what question was asked.
Here It is:

Question: What are your thoughts on this:
Freudian psychology which postulates that whatever happens to you as a child shapes your character and personality and basically governs your whole life. The limits and parameters of your life are set, and , basically , you can’t do much about it”.

( Extracted from book “The 7 habits of Highly Effective People” by Dr. Stephen R. Covey, p-69,1989)

I am sharing here those and some valuable opinions and answers of people which they shared with me on social networks. It will give us broader view from different minds about this very subject. I am copying them here as it and we will continue this discussion until we reach on greatest conclusion.

“I believe it’s true our up bringing does shape us but I also believe people can change their character & personality. I’m a living example my character changed! No one life goes without difficulty that they can’t blame. When people blame they give up their power to change”.

“There is shaping, but it isn’t set in stone. How you choose to respond to what was done in your youth and how you were shaped… your response is totally up to you. Some choose to respond with ” This is how I am.” Others choose to respond with “How can I overcome? How can I be more in spite of what was and currently is?” Mind is our servant and will work with whatever we give it. In the first choice, mind is given a command to continue affirming what is. In the second choice, mind is given a quest, command of transformation. Mind works to fulfill what we give”.

Robert responds to my question like this:

“What you say sounds good, and I believe choice plays a role shaping one’s life. As much as I respect the work of the late Stephen Covey, my experience informs me that many psychological problems and disorders related to childhood can’t be healed through choice. If I understand your response correctly the complex field of psychology can be reduced to one theory of choice?
Faced with many challenging executive coaching assignments over several decades has prompted me to forge collaborative working relationships with talented psychotherapists who are skilled at addressing the unconscious issues while my work stays on the organizational/conscious side of the boundary where I’m trained. In such cases the client is asked to grant permission for us to work as a team in support of shared outcomes”.

One posting from Leon says here:
Dear Maratib:
First of all Freud never said that the “The limits and parameters of your life are set, and , basically , you can’t do much about it”. That’s what psychoanalysis is all about, a way to deal with the things in your past to improve your present condition.
Now in regards to the choice factor, I agree with Robert. Human behavior is a very complex construct that can not be altered just by the simple exercise of personal choice, there are external and internal aspects that affect the process of changing ones life, for instance, paradigms, resources, knowledge, support systems, even protein intake. Now having said that, I do agree we can change our condition and improve it for good, as far as some of all the factors of this equation align to produce the desired change.
Finally, Dr. Covey (a founder of my Master’s Program) didn’t have it all right, or at least scientifically supported.

In light of above two responses of Leon and Robert I replied as:
Robert and Leon, What i have understood from you valuable thoughts that there are many complexities within brain, psychological and biological which cannot fit to the theory of power of choice as Dr. Stephen’s whole work’s philosophy originates i believe. right?
If so than my response would be:
I think that power of choice is relevant to those emerging individuals and minds who are living or want to live/grow/contribute in their personal and outer world. Weak or mentally ill or distorted childhood brain with physically damaged, cannot make choices because of their limitations and illness. They should consult with therapists, counselors and medical doctors. Because the whole idea of chose and success literature is for dynamic individual who are not depend on at least any major illness or such psychological complexities as you are mentioning.
To practice choices are functions and habits of leaders only.

some other responses are shown as below:

“i m supporter of frued psychoanalytical theory , because early experiences really play large role in personality development and continue to influence behavior later in life. But if we talk about change yes we change but it is purely an individual effort and very less of us could manage to do so”.

“Stays in subconscious for most part which does control majority of our unconscious behavior and habitual patterns and reactions. Once one becomes aware, and thru working with a coach like us, they can choose to change, transform, transmute, transcend and evolve negative thoughts beliefs patterns behavior and be best version of themselves as they allow it and take action towards it”.
Between stimulus & response there is space
“Stephen Covey wold disagree (and I could be wrong but he preferred Jung). He acknowledged that upbringing powerfully influences your character and personality but ultimately you, as a human, have the choice to do and be otherwise”.

“I don’k know how to represent either one of these two gentlemen, but from my own course of life I strongly disagree. I am much different than I was years ago, stronger, overcam many obstacles, and transformed my life several times through changing jbaits, coaching, etc. Unless THAT, too, was predetermined, which I very seriously doubt”.

I believe it does, but other things that happen later on do change people. Maturity and growth are a big factor. I know I had a habit from childhood, and it was associated with events and stress, I did feel powerless and I almost gave it to the feeling but no, I’m stronger than that come on, anyone can redesign what they believed in when they were young. Everyday we have choices and let’s hope we choose well. I needed and was a puppy that wanted to be loved by everyone, I learnt that not everyone loves you, and it’s better to change that really quickly otherwise one gets hurt. So to an extend, we are the way we are but let’s not accept all of it. Keep an open mind.

I believe it helps shape our character and personality but does not have to define us. We all have the ability to make choices in our lives and change the direction if we want to.

Interesting thought, but I cannot agree. We decide every day, with our options at hand, what kind of life we wish to create for ourselves. It’s the habits we develop, and the daily decisions we make taking into account the personal mission statement we have designed, that create the future we determine. I truly believe that life should be lived “looking forward”.

I agree with most, we make choices every day that decide our fate. I’ve seen a peer that had an unfortunate childhood become a veterinarian and another who had a great childhood end up working the 2nd shift in the light bulb factory. However, I believe it easier for some due to a more positive environment growing up. Thanks!

We as humans have learned to re-invent ourselves and manage our emotions. We can’t always control our hot button’s created during childhood, though we can manage how we react to them when pushed. This is habit 1.

“I’m a believer that we have choice. Once you see that the young you didn’t have the depth of awareness needed to split the event from your version of the event, you can reframe the past and therefor set your future”.

“Sorry i Disagree – it is your mindset that changes every thing around you. It is your attitude towards life that determines your altitude.
“If you think you can or you cannot – in both cases you are right”

 

“I believe that your personality is shaped when you are young and due to your upbringing you may be timid, shy, confident etc. But as an adult you have the choice and now the information to be able to change any character flaws that you developed in childhoods”.

“I believe that the experiences you have as a child play a big part in self defining tracks that play in my mind.
Habits and triggers are formed from repeated experiences which almost create a rut in your brain; when X happens to me, I turn right and take this path of reaction. It takes a lot of work to grab the wheel and choose to steer down a different path however it can be done.
The wonder of human existence is having free will and the ability to learn, grow and change. Alvin Toffler said “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn”. This quote was not meant to reflect human character and personality, however I still believe it applies. We can learn new ways to respond to stimuli and choose new ways to react.
Your childhood is where you start and none of them are idealistic. What you choose to do next is up to you”.

“Freud stimulated ideas from his stimulated thinking as he sought stimulation. The pleasure principle is instinctively and emotionally driven and is at the bedrock of human development. There seems to more that might govern one’s life than the areas Freud was concentrating on”.

“Maratib, to me Freud stood somehwere at the beginning of public Western opinions on psycology, meaning he started a discussion which had been neglected for thousend of years, in western cultures that is.
Thousends of years ago people already learned about human behavior and pretty more nuanced than Freud ever described it.
Yes as long as you are able to maintain your sense of innocence and creativity you evolve and enrich your self-and people knowledgde. And yes for most the first years are the most impressionable, assuming your creativity and sense of innocence slowly get depressed and replaced by rationals through “socialisation”and education.
Still once you reached some level of maturity your tend to go out and seek to get back to the state of mind and freedom you once had?
Are they therefore all set and not to be influenced? no way, to easy.
There are loads of cultural influences, preferences, personal competencies, genetic imprint and basic instinctive behaviors to consider.
I agree that whatever you experience early on during impressionable years will influence you and affect the way you percieve and experience life to be, yet not set it, certainly not that you cannot do anything about it.
I find that to be the poorest excuse, you might not be ale to completly change and do a 180 on certain topics and behaviors, but you can and should evolve if only to cope with the only constant being change itself.
have fun”.

“See my animation about eg Freud : http://youtu.be/H0PsxiioTDw

“Maratib, interesting question. As you mentioned, this has been a key Philosophical question for sometime. We have come to find out as time moves forward that many views presented as fact by well-known philosophers, have been dis-proven or modified to accommodate a better understanding of what is known to be true today. Earth is flat, Sun revolves around the Earth, Dark Matter and other moving targets. Events that happen to us as we grow up definitely influence who we are as individuals and as cultural societies. Typically, the individual is presented with the event and decides if they will react to that event. I do not subscribe to the believe that individuals can’t do much about how they allow it to influence them. It’s up to each of us to choose our own vehicle that takes us forward from that event to the next step in our lives. Some my select anger, others may choose compassion and some may select understanding”.

“For the most part, behavior is set by the age of six. No one knows the percentage contributed by genetics and by environment, but both matter. Can people change? Sure, but usually as a result of a significant emotional event (divorce, death of a loved one, etc). Otherwise, what you see at six is what you get at sixty. Are people prisoners to their behaviors? Yes, unless they use a model like DISC (or something similar) to learn the strengths and limitations of their behavior style. Once learned, salespeople can use their intelligence instead of their emotions (their “emotional intelligence”) to improve their interactions with their clients”.

“It is a bit short-sighted…throughout our life, different events, actions, choices, etc would bring rational or irrational fears in our lives; with which, we have to deal with, thus, we would get shaped (character, emotions, skills, thoughts,…). I see it as a never ending cycle until our last breath. Surely…childhood experiences strongly shape our future self, but indefinitely. Imagine, if someone gets bullied most of his/her childhood. How strong that individual must become to overcome its fears and come out as a better person!? Even more importantly, how long would it take to change one’s perception”?

“It has been a Long mind/thought War beetween Behavioural psicology and The traditional Freudian one. And more contributions have been added by Lacan and Eric Berne and some recent studies from Winnicot. It’ a fact our first 5-6 years personal events strongly influence our beliefs and way of thinking and living emotions; this do not automatically Mean the human being as to be An unmouldable set of cause-reaction mosaic. The innest “machine” in some Way work for ever in The same Way But it’ a possible effort to adapt and change the Way each single individual live everyday actions and emotions. Why can different individuals pass through the same disruptive events surviving Them or being injuried for all the Life Long? Here stand the great trasformation Power given to any human being to learn How to manage herself/himself starting by a Long and honest inside job. If you know the “Inner machine” working everyday in any of your action and thought you have a great power to influence and chance your life; in a different Way I would say as to be almost impossible or a lottery ticket Win !“.

“Hello Maratib, having spent two years studying the irrational, covert and unconscious side of organisational life at an esteemed psycholanalytic institute in NYC it is my opinion that our childhood experience (the subconscious as a tape recorder) plays a significant role in how we view and interact in the adult world. I also believe with the proper support we as human beings can grow beyond the “projected” beliefs and limitations (head trash) we “introjected” as defenseless child”.

In the light of above opinion, I personally believe that It is human choice to make him greater and different beyond past, race, colour, language, region and social setup. This is called dignity of human. You have power to choose your own response any time beyond genetic, environmental and biological reasons. Today, most of dynamic individuals have not even normal childhood but since they have choose to take control on their life, they are unique, star and role models for millions other. It is unique spiritual voice which anyone can be aware of and start to follow it, no matter, what kind of worse current or past circumstances are. Dr. Stephen’s principle of Personal Vision i.e. Be proactive, basically teaches that charge your life at any moment beyond any pressure and leave your legacy.

He put this fact in his famous book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness:

“We are a product of neither nature nor nurture; we are a product of choice, because there is always space between stimulus and response”.

Covey also points out it by saying that “I am what I am” and “I am where I am because I so choose to be there”

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Leadership Message for Parents

Dear All,

I am looking for possibilities to stimulate parents to be aware of leadership concepts and its need. Many parents have intellectual limitation and they do not know neither understand importance of principle based training and everyday life living. Parents often use traditional and old methods to either control their children or become over sensitive and confused in this so rapidly changing world where technology is ruling over morals.
Leadership is a paradigm which can inculcate into children through sequential development, complete human intelligences of body, mind, heart and spirit along with believe on natural or moral laws of God and power of choice. Leadership is a moral position and can bring a child in realization to be Leader and that child can cope in every circumstance and such children can choose countless possibilities in different realities of life. It enables to unleash their potential which God has given them and true leadership values protect children from path of unhappiness and straitjacket.

I am looking for works of awareness and guidance for such parents or teachers who can educate children accordingly. I am looking for same interest people who can share and do something great in this awareness.

Please join me!

Thanks
Maratib

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I am not religious but…

“I am not religious”. Ms. Gibbs said me.

Ms. Gibbs is my Brent council’s library customer and I went to her home to deliver books from Brent Council, London. I am doing some formal volunteer works from local council in London.

So you do not celebrate Christmas, Ms. Gibbs, I asked.

I do, but not as religious, as a social festival, sometimes, she exclaimed.

My next straight forward question was, do you believe on Jesus, Ms. Gibbs? Sometimes, but I am not religious, Maratib. I was surprised to listen it. (Because I was thinking that she would be as she was 85).

But Ms. Gibbs I love Jesus, in-fact all religions like Jewish, Muslims, Christians, Hindus, because basic purpose of all religions are to spread love. I shared my feelings with Ms. Gibbs (I wanted to pass message of importance of ‘religion’ not Islam, first).

Well, Maratib, religions are fairy tales, she argued with me.

Well, Ms. Gibbs, we cannot say like this because phenomena begin of religions happened far years ago and we could not really knew it, but we can verify its authenticity from their results in current modern times, I explained to Ms. Gibbs. I do not support who fight for religions. I love all religions because all spread love of God, but it does not mean that to become born in Jew family, Muslim family and Christian family is enough for success unless you do not do some intellectual contribution and do some works in science and morality to give benefit to mankind, I was sharing my personal voice with Ms. Gibbs. Absolutely, I do appreciate you Maratib, yes it is, said by Ms. Gibbs. Thank you Ms. Gibbs, See you next time with more books.

I picked my books trolley and moved to another library customer who lived nearby. I was satisfied and have discerned feelings what we had quick 2-3 min dialogue.

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