Buddhism, Business, Parents, paretning, Self-Help

Parenting and Children (Spiritual Reasons) In the light of Eckart Tolle’s work

Parents and Children (Spiritual Reasons) – Watch the intense episode for parents, adults and older people. Join the channel for more deepest thoughts based videos. #parentsupport #childrenswellbeing

•Parents may watch helplessly in incomprehension and disbelief as their little angel becomes transformed within a few seconds into a little monster.
•Children are not fooled by parents who try to hide their pain-body from them, who say to each other, “We mustn’t fight in front of the children.“
Parents often wonder how to deal with their child’s pain
•Some children learn subliminally about ego and pain-body simply by living with very unconscious parents.

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Coaching session between Eckhart Tolle and a client

Do you feel lonely, in depression and had abusive relationship? This video can help you to understand it and provide you solution. Subscribe the channel for more videos.

This is true story of a girl, explained by Eckart Tolle in his book. She said she felt lonely and unfulfilled. There was much anger and sadness. As a child she had been abused by a physically violent father. She was ready to awaken, and this is why she had come. Another dimension had come into her life that transcended her personal past—the dimension of Presence. I explained that I had just witnessed a major release in someone with a very dense pain-body and that what she felt must be some of the energy that was released during our session. My friend, however, didn’t want to stay and listen. She wanted to get away as soon as possible.

Here is class video recording for whole story.

 

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THE MILL, THE STONE, AND THE WATER by Philosopher Poet Rumi

All our desire is a grain of wheat,

Our whole personality is the milling-building.

But this mill grinds without knowing about it.

The millstone is your heavy body.

What makes the stone turn is your thought-river.

The stone says: I don’t know why we do all this,

but the river has knowledge!

If you ask the river, it says,

I don’t know why I flow.

All I know is that a human opened the gate!

And if you ask the person, he says:

All I know, oh gobbler of bread, is that if this stone

stops going around, there’ll be no bread for your

bread-soup!

All this grinding goes on, and no one has any

knowledge!

So just be quiet, and one day turn

to God, and say: “What is this about bread-making?”

 

(translated by Robert Bly)

Voiced by: Maratib Ali Shad

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‘The Jar with the Dry Rim’ by Sufi poet philosopher Rumi

The mind is an ocean I and so many worlds

are rolling there, mysterious, dimly seen!

And our bodies? Our body is a cup, floating

on the ocean; soon it will fill, and sink ….

Not even one bubble will show where it went

down.

The spirit is so near that you can t see it!

But reach for it …don’t be a jar

full of water, whose rim is always dry.

Don’t be the rider who gallops all night

and never sees the horse that is beneath him.

(translated by Robert Bly)

(Voiced by Maratib Ali Shad)

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Psychology of innocency of criminals

Why do we cry when we feel in guilty?
when we do crime or violate some laws in result of our unconscious living than shall we still be punished or not?
People, who have possessed with dense pain-body, are still responsible for their wrong-doing and act of being in guilty?
In this class, we have tried to understand deeply background of the crimes or illegal actions or act of being guilty and what are their hidden reasons. Eckart Tolle in his book “The New Earth” explain this dimension of life with spiritual and logical reasons.
Click here, listen, watch and learn it.

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How knowledge about myself important for greater listening skills ?

Last Sunday we had group video live class to explore questions such as:

  • We are blind to certain sides of ourselves.
  • we project the same qualities onto others that we deny in ourselves.
  • Why some people keep a worthy idea hidden from their managers?
  • Why some people keep their feelings hidden?
  • Why we should identify our behaviour mode at work?

 

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Roots of sufferings of Women Deepest discussion on gender war

Last Sunday, I had group video coaching class on gender issues.

We discussed couple of hot issues like:

  1. What is male and female energies?
  2. Why females have more openness and sensitive ?
  3. What is significance of balance energies between male and female ?
  4. Why millions of women were tortured and killed during last few centuries by the Roman Church ?
  5. Why our world is out of balance between male and female ?
  6. Are men responsible for conditions of women being suppressed ?
  7. Why men feel threatened by the female ?
  8. Is Ego in the women lesser than men? And it is losing faster today, why?
  9. Why women are suffering by childbirth, rape, slavery, torture and violent death?

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Last Sunday on 6th March, I organised a class for online course on recognition of pain-body. You can watch on the following link to go into details and find the answers of such questions as:

Why our marriages are at risk to be failed most of the times?

Why husband and wife relationship is sometime so painful for each other?

Why an unimportant thought even trigger your pain-body to break-up your relationship with your spouse ?

How we can transform our relationship by having awareness about ourself ?

Why we become abusive and violent even in front of children?

You can join our online and live group course on “ How the process of Pain-body work? Follow the links to register and participate every Sunday, help yourself to change y our life completely. 

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How your childhood and parents experience shaped to become level of listener you are right now?

Stephen Covey says that in order to influence on other you must be empathic listener. However, for it is important how your childhood-parenting experience went through. You need to know how your parents caused you the level of listener you are today. This video explains this fact as several dimension to find out the realities. Watch out…

 

 

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Does all such violent contents based movies are bad?

Today, I conducted a group coaching session on Zoom and Facebook on on-going topic of identification and managing Pain-body, on the idea narrated by Eckhart Tolle. It went very well and I have uploaded its video recording on this link.

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Eckart Tolle says in his book “A New Earth” that This dysfunctional thinking is what the body reacts to with negative emotion. The emotional component of ego differs from person to person. Unconscious assumptions create emotions in the body which in turn generate mind activity and/or instant reactions. In this way, they create your personal reality. He also talks about relationship between mind of duck and human mind.

 

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Origin of emotions

Eckert Tolle says that •The physical organism, your body, has its own intelligence, as does the organism of every other life-form. And that intelligence reacts to what your mind is saying, reacts to your thoughts. So emotion is the body’s reaction to your mind. 

You can join every Sunday this class session by click and registering your details on Zoom.

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

It will also be live on following Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/LifeCoachingSuccess

Facebook 7 Habits group:

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Emotional bank account and Four autobiographical responses

Communications experts estimate, in fact, that :

1)only 10 percent of our communication is represented by the words we say. 

2)Another 30 percent is represented by our sounds, and 

3)60 percent by our body language. 

In empathic listening, you listen with your ears, but you also, and more importantly, listen with your eyes and with your heart. You listen for feeling, for meaning. You listen for behavior. You use your right brain as well as your left. You sense, you intuit, you feel.

You can join every Sunday this class session by click and registering your details on Zoom.

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

It will also be live on following Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/LifeCoachingSuccess

Facebook 7 Habits group:

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Subscribe YouTube channel for more videos and life changing contents:

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Introduction to advanced Listening Skills | Online Training Course

I have started a new online training course. 

Do you know that 40% listening is part of 100% communication in our everyday and business life. 

I invite you to join it and pass on this info to your friends, colleagues and those who can get benefits from it. This is advance learning for those who want to excel at work and personal life.

Highly recommended for personal development and business produtivity

Here is introduction with training course. 

You can like, share and subscribe the channel. 

You can join every Sunday this class session by click and registering your details on Zoom.

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

It will also live on following Facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/LifeCoachingSuccess

Facebook 7 Habits group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/121394101253374

blog for personal development and spirituality:

www.MaratibAlishad.com

You can write directly on maratib@maratibalishad.com

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How to repair Ego? |two dimensions of reality | Formless identity |Awareness who you are | Space, universe and Consciousness

We finished our online course last Sunday. 

1- Last episode covered key areas of our seen and unseen world. 

2- More importantly,  how to diminish ego through various methods and techniques.How to consider two dimensions of realities i.e. Materialist or seen world and spiritual or unseen?

3- What is essence of our true identity as Human being?

4- What is relationship between my identity and consciousness ?

5- How realities of space and universe creates my inner-space to make me unlimited from limited ?

Click here to watch recording. Subscribe the YouTube channel for more life changing productive videos and press the bell icon for next release. 

write to me on maratib@maratibalishad.com for any question and help please .

All videos of online course previous classes playlist can be accessed here: 

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLr_IMlIV0HebFej97ggCRRaz5FVyB62es

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Dreams | Perceptions are reality ?|You are Consciousness | surrender | Going beyond Limitations | Week 6 | Online Course | Maratib Ali Shad

Today, I conducted a great class session as group online coaching. We learnt and read various sources about the subject such as:

  • This world-Life is a merely dream? 
  • Who is dreamer ? 
  • Where contents of all these dreams come from ? 
  • Why non-resistance is key of salvation of problem of individuals and humanity
  • Why we perceive this world in terms of different forms? 
  • How we can be formless ?

click here to register and join on Zoom from any device . Or watch live on Facebook by following link.

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

Subscribe YouTube channel for more videos and life changing contents:

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You can invite your friend, family and colleague for make free registration and participate. See you there.

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“Rediscovering Self – who truly I am?” Online Course

On 31st 2021, I started online video class room course on Zoom and Facebook page about rediscovering self – who truly I am. Today It was its fifth class session and still two to three classes remains.

I invite you to join each or all remaining class as it still lot of intellectual and spiritual benefits you can get.

Here is course outline of the all classes:

Course Outline

Week 1 | Truth of ignorance | Challenge our believes | Key astonishing thoughts of people at death bed

Week 2 | Start to you who you are ‘NOT’ actually | You cannot define yourself actually

Week 3 | abundance, Psychoanalysis, personality assessment, Chaos, nature, Jungle

Week 4 | idea of Good and Bad | How to see world and events

Week 5 | Present Time | The paradox of Time | Elimination of Time

Week 6 | Dreams & going beyond the limitation

Week 7 | Ego and the true Happiness

Week 8 | Practical workshop & QA

 

Introduction and important of this course can be watched in the attached video where I explained why rediscovering is extremely crucial for my life and quality of my existence.

Do you define yourself as gender-sex, ethnicity or skin colour, language and place, religion or community etc ? 

or as parent, child, spouse, Boss, employee, activist, politician etc? who you are truly actually?? 

How many identities you have? 2,3,7,10 or more? 

Yuval Noah Harrari says ” if you feel overwhelmed and confused by the global predicament, you are on the right track. Global processes have become too complicated for any single person to understand. How then can you know the truth about the world, and avoid falling victim to propaganda and misinformation?

By the way it is true. if we see we also in self-deception to define my ‘Self’ who truly I am actually. All things and people are biased, categorised and ranked into superior and inferior, right and wrong, good and bad and surrounded by multiple borrowed social identities of race, language, place and religions etc. However, biggest tragedy is we don’t know about your true Self and hence we make false judgements about myself and poorer perceptions the outer world and make risky actions. Logically, it leads to suffering, failure, mediocrity, fears, pain and collapse internally and world affairs until we wait for our miserable time of death.

This online group coaching classes live video series will address all issues to understand, research about ‘My Self’ who is human-unit of this entire planet. Our approach will be intellectually, philosophical and spiritual. 

If you are and remain live as confused person and want to have larger clarity to become truly successful in personal and professional life, in relationships, financially and socially than you must have super-clarity about who you are truly to transform your perceptions, paradigms and action-steps totally to feel ultimate happiness, live-longer and fear free.

This course will help you to cope better your life challenges at personal, work and social levels. 

Click the link to register to join us every Sunday for an hour only. This one hour out of 168 hours a week will help you to completely change for ever.

click here to register and join on Zoom from any device . Or watch live on Facebook by following link. 

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

Subscribe YouTube channel for more videos and life changing contents:

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You can invite you friend, family and colleague for make free registration and participate.  See you there.

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You can also subscribe my blog website www.MaratibAliShad.com

You can invite your friend, family and colleague for make free registration and participate.  See you there.

https://www.facebook.com/LifeCoachingSuccess

click here to register and join on Zoom from any device . Or watch live on Facebook by following link. 

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

You can contact directly to the teacher maratib@maratibalishad.com

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Moments of Now | Past and Future | The paradox of Time | Elimination of Time

  1. Are you confused about concept of Time? 
  2. Why does Time control our lives? 
  3. Why we are victim of illusion of Time?
  4. Does Time exist ? 
  5. Do Past and Future exist really?
  6. What is relationship between my Ego and Time?
  7. How and why to live in present moment? 
  8. What is power behind Now?

We had a great class today and you could be part of next Sunday class also by following links:

Also you can access recording of this one of class session on YouTube.

click here to register and join on Zoom from any device . Or watch live on Facebook by following link. 

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

Subscribe YouTube channel for more videos and life changing contents:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6U0oXcFkHLEGorLKVcvLw

You can invite you friend, family and colleague for make free registration and participate.  See you there.

https://www.facebook.com/LifeCoachingSuccess

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Love Hate Relationships Understanding opposite gender psychology

On 5th Sept 2021, I started a brand new group Coaching series on Relationships especially Husband and Wife or Boyfriend and Girlfriend or between partners. Here is Episode No. 1 with key notes bullet points along with video recording.

Do you have feelings of being victimise ?

Do you have conflicts of other opposite gender ?

Do you have anger and fears about your spouse ?

Why you have not able to build successful relationship with key people such as wife, Boss and husband or parents etc. 

Spiritual authority Eckhart Tolle says that unless and until you access the consciousness frequency of presence, all relationships, and particularly intimate relationship, are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional.

Stephen Covey of book ‘The 7 Habits’ also revealed secrets behind long-lasting relationships in his book The 3rd Alternative. 

In this profound on-demand class, we will read, learn and go into deep about causes of broken relationships, its healing and covert them into ideal relationships.

This exciting class for individuals, husband-wife, Boss-employee and conflicts genders. 

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Love and Fight between Man and Woman | Romantic & Addictive Relationships

Today, I conducted an intense group coaching live online session on Zoom and Facebook group and I think it is worth to share with you to access its video recording and key notes as:

  • Why we become addicted of the things, like smoking, Technology, friend etc.
  • Does addiction cause pain and unhappiness?
  • Why people do intense love in romantic relationship?
  • Can we fight with each other in true love?
  • You are man and complete person?
  • You are woman and complete person?
  • How we can remove pain of past events?
  • Does avoidance of relationship helps to remove pain?
  • Can failed relationships bring true peace and salvation?

Eckart Tolle says that the reason why the romantic love relationship in such an intense and universally sought-after experience is that it seems to offer liberation from a deep-seated state of fear, lack, and incompleteness that is part of the human condition in its unredeemed and unenlightened state. There is a physical as well as psychological dimension to this state. 

This second episode is continuity of our new learning series on Love-Hate relationships we learnt last week. If you want to improve and quality of relationship with your loved one, wife, husband etc this class can give you lot of take-homes.

 

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How can I recreate Life| Why to remove sufferings and fears (Life’s Holistic view) | Maratib Ali Shad

Is there any magic trick that we could remove sufferings and fears from my life?

We as human being in modern age thinks that we are what our mind operates and control us. However, reality is mind is part of our whole being and existence. We as being controls our mind, our mind does not control us. That mind’s egoistic nature keep us away from present moments and put us in past bad experiences all the times. Our minds also predicts upcoming fears to destroy our present.

In this video, We will try to understand the nature of mind and higher consciousness with its unlimited grip on our creativity.

This mind blowing and can change your life. This video session recording will give you great learning interactive experience on white board.

You can find video link of recording of this class and share with others please.

Here is way to enrol / register / join my next free class and sessions:

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

Please click below to subscribe to the YouTube channel as we are building an online community of like-minded and diverse individuals like you.

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Love heals ! Did you know?

Psychiatrist Dr. David Hawkins says that on the level of love, we are heartfelt, generous, nurturing, affectionate, steadfast, and forgiving. Love is protective, collaborative, uplifting, holistic, and gracious. It is characterised by warmth, gratitude, appreciation, humility, completion, vision, purity of motive, and sweetness.

We are starting a new live group class series on ‘LOVE’.

In this thoughtful class session on Sunday, we will discover different hidden description of the phenomenon of do Love and being loved. Love is both a verb and noun.

Scroll down to find video recording of this event class.

Key points :

• Why you must Understand the ‘LOVE’ with deeper thoughtful and spiritual way

• How we can get rid of negative emotions ?

• How you can increase your 10 years in your life ?

• Does love heal you body , is it joke ?

• Understanding the popular sentence “How I can help you” ?

• How we can light up our inner and outer world?

• How we can transform our life?

• Story of the Duck Hunter

• How and why you can ready for sacrifice and live for others only ?

• How you can turn your anger into Loveable being ?

Why do you not forgive others?

Please click below to register to join my next class free of cost:

 

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

 

Please click below to subscribe to the YouTube channel as we are building an online community of like-minded and diverse individuals like you.

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Why and How to build relationship free from pain, with unconditional love?

Psychiatrist Dr David Hawkins finds out that only 0.04% of the population experience the state of unconditional love. 

We live in very complex world of relationships with people and objects. Often we associate with them for selfish and egoistic fullfilment. Purity and sincerity between husband and wife, parents and children , Company and employees, politicians and the people are seldom seen. 

When we do unconditional love, we are empowered by inner joy, faith, ecstasy, patience, compassion, persistence, essence, beauty, synchronicity, perfection, surrender, rapture, vision , and openness.

If you are struggling with gaining and restoring unconditional relationships, then this group session is for you. You will study and learn most sophisticated interactive learning experience.

Key Learning (Highlights) : 

• Do you know that only 0.04% number of people have experienced  state of unconditional love?

• Forgiveness and process of unconditional relationship.

• On the level of unconditional love, we love everybody and everything – even Adolf Hitler?

• When you can feel and maintain miraculous energy to do everything?

• How process of surrender and love work together?

• Why heart always wins over mind?

• How we can love with someone without any expectation?

• How we can avoid pain and suffered great from as agent of loving person?

• How we can do self-help to detach with the pain?

• What happens when we violates the law of love?

Don’t miss to register by click the following link and join the class session:

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

 

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Science, Rationality and consciousness (Part 2)

why science is incomplete paradigm to discover and contemplate with absolute realities about our life and cosmology. How we can see holistic view our life for true success with science and meta-physical realities with spirituality and consciousness.

This is life changing class session and if you are enough courage to learn new paradigm of the life and cosmology, you can watch it and join our next session on Sunday. 

Three ways to enrol / register / join my next free class and sessions:

1- https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

2- Facebook LIVE on http://facebook.com/groups/the7habits

3- Live Stream link.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6U0oXcFkHLEGorLKVcvLw

Please click below to subscribe to the YouTube channel as we are building an online community of like-minded and diverse individuals like you.

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Courage, being courageous means and consciousness Series (Part 1)

Recently I have started new series on Courage and its different spiritual dimensions, by Dr. David Hawkins with my captions and some interpretations.

Here is episode 1 and its contents, key questions and video recording.

Key contents:

•How we can have great feelings of “ I can”

•Why some people are more resilient ?

•To become courageous what level of consciousness we are?

•Why are we not doer of the world ?

•How we can have inner self-confidence and less concerned with security?

•Why people are not able to change their paradigm or whole worldview?

•Are belief systems fix or changeable ?

•Are you ready to experience uncertainty, confusion and being upset and discomfort, temporarily but why ?

Three ways to enrol / register / join my next free class and sessions:

1- https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

2- Facebook LIVE on http://facebook.com/groups/the7habits

3- Live Stream link.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6U0oXcFkHLEGorLKVcvLw

Please click below to subscribe to the YouTube channel as we are building an online community of like-minded and diverse individuals like you.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6U0oXcFkHLEGorLKVcvLw

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Science of ‘Mind and Body’ Series – (Part 1/3)

Last Sunday, I conducted a session on my brand new series on ‘Mind and Body’ from Dr. David Hawkin’s literary works. 

Here, I am sharing some key questions of which we explored answers.

Do you know?

• Does brain controls mind or Mind controls brain? Brain is origin of mind or Mind is origin of brain?

• Why laughing is a method cancelling negative thoughts?

• What is multiple personality disorder (DID)?

• How Pandemic or epidemics  spread in the society through mind or virus?

• How Hypnosis does work ?

• Menstrual periods in woman have connections with Psychological mind ?

• Matter controls energy or energy controls matter ?

What is law of consciousness ?

I invite you for life changing online class/sessions on this Sunday with following details.

Session 2 : Relationship between Body and Mind (Part 1/3)

Three ways to enrol / register / join this free class and sessions:

1-  You are invited to a Live Zoom class session (with screen slide share)

When: Every Sunday, 01:00 PM London UK local time

Register in advance for this free class / session :

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

2- Facebook LIVE on http://facebook.com/groups/the7habits (for members only- You must join the group in order to watch live on group homepage) 

3- Youtube Live Stream link.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCS6U0oXcFkHLEGorLKVcvLw

Please click below to subscribe to the YouTube channel as we are building an online community of like-minded and diverse individuals like you.

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Get ready for pen and paper and lot of will to learn and apply to change your thinking and life. It’s free class with two sessions. 

Here is link of recording of the session:

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9 Factors of “The 7 Habits” still relevant today?

Stephen Covey wrote a foreword note in 25th anniversary edition of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. 

There are 9 challenges of modern world but still 7 habits will remain habits for next 100 years and why ?

In this episode, we will only explore following factors :

1- Fear and insecurity

2- Wants / Needs

3- Blame / Victimism

4- Hopelessness 

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Origins of Fear, Reflections, shadow and Clouds of Fears – Part 4(b)

Key Points: 

1) Take the same protective actions out of love rather than out of fear.

2) Each of us has within us a certain reservoir of suppressed and repressed fear.

3) fear attracts fear just as its corollary is true that love attracts love

4) The unconscious mind is not polite

5) The unconscious is crude and uncivilized

6) fear of the opinions of others

7) people who have acknowledged the content of their own shadow have no interest in crime, violence, and fearful disasters.

8) One of the blocks to emotional development is the fear of what lies buried in our unconscious

9) the self cannot become healed and whole unless we look at and acknowledge the shadow.

Fear comes in many forms: unease, worry, anxiety, nervousness, tension, dread, phobia etc.

David Hawkins talks about taking the same protective actions out of love rather than out of fear.

Can we not care for our bodies because we appreciate and value them, rather than out of fear of disease and dying? 

Can we not be of service to others in our life out of love, rather than out of fear of losing them? 

Can we not be polite and courteous to strangers because we care for our fellow human beings, rather than because we fear losing their good opinion of us? 

Can we not perform our job well because we care about the recipients of our services, rather than just the fear of losing our jobs or pursuing our own ambition? 

Can we not drive carefully because we have a high regard for ourselves and care for our welfare and those who love us, rather than because we fear an accident? 

On a spiritual level, isn’t it more effective if, out of compassion and identification with our fellow human beings, we care for them rather than trying to love them out of fear of God’s punishment if we don’t?

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Healing of the Fear| Power of LOVE | Loving Therapy| Lessons from David Hawkins|

If you are scared of something and have fears, they stop you to go further ahead in your life, you can watch this video that may help you.

Key content:

1- Fear is pandemic

2- Case study

3- Fear is healed by Love

4- Love is letting go of fear

5- lessons from David Hawkins

6- What is psychological fear?

7- What is real fear?

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Online Event Positive Emotions, Crisis, Healing the past by Maratib Ali Shad

Stephen Covey says in “The 7 habits of highly effective people” that “We are not our feelings. We are not our moods. we are not even our thoughts….”

Last week we learning and shared about difference between thoughts and emotions and managing them.

This week we will read and learn about :

1- How to enhancing the positive emotions. 

2- What are positive emotions such as Love and Joy?

3- Why and how to handle Emotional crisis ?

4- How we can “Healing the past”

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Is Buddha a lost or forgotten prophet of Muslims ? – Six Key research questions to the Muslim Intellectual World – a quest from post-modern Muslims

Spirituality is directly linked with various paradigms such Enlightenment, Ultimate reality, Personal development or purification of thoughts & hearts, Oneness of the universe, inner-Peace and even with knowing the true God.

Siddhartha Gautma (500 BCE) transformed as Buddha in India/Chinese origin, is considered and world widely accepted as spiritual or philosophical inspiration across all civilisations such as Eastern religions or philosophies and Western world. Historically, advent of Buddha period was started after Hinduism and before Islam-Judaism-Christianity and others. I will specifically address here acceptance of Buddha as prophet in Islamic context where there are strong evidences reflect that Buddha could be one of thousands of prophets from God who were sent down on earth for the guidance of the people.

Buddha and his philosphy’s does influence greatly, upon many intellectual and domains from classic to modern and then post-modern eras. Buddha’s commandments, sayings and wisdom often are quoted in both eastern and western intellectual world. Of course, it does inspired to modern educated Muslims too. It is also important that there are so many common grounds between Islam and Buddhism. Therefore, Buddhist have always been living peacefully ( with minimise conflict or history of any kind of violence ( under Muslim political regimes in different part of the world in India, Central Asia & Indonesia).

Once, as a Muslim, I thought that wisdom of Buddha is very relevant and applicable in the contemporary complex world to address the mostly psychologically and philosophical issues in mostly domains of modern life. Many authors, gurus, spiritual masters and business leaders do get influenced by Buddha and his wisdom in many ways.

As Muslim, there could be many following criterion to accept and admire Buddha for his worthful and spiritual teachings :

  1. If we would find any clear or indirect clues in the Holy book of Quran and in Muslim recorded authentic traditions, about such a person that could be Buddha as our previous prophet or Nabi or holy person such as ‘Luqman’, ‘Keizer’ before advent of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) in 570 AD ?
  2. Being a Muslim, how much extend we can take guidance from life and teachings of previous Prophets such as Jesus (PBUH), Moses (PBUH), David (PBUH), Ibrahim (PBUH) etc.? If yes than why not from Buddha if he would also be proven as prophet?
  3. There could be possibility that Buddha was lost or forgotten prophet of the Muslims and if it is, then why and what make us to deprive to get benefits of his teachings side by side of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and other prophet’s teachings or wisdom.

Great revolution Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and his companions including later-caliphs brought from Arab along with Mediterranean region, was most profound in terms of civilisational development, social justice, Tauwheed & Theological , political expansion and of-course purification of hearts and mind through super humanistic and secular values such as tolerance, compassion, love, mercy, integrity & serenity.

It is important to know that there were major developments in fundamental domains such as ‘Science’ had not been addressed in pre-Islamic era till 750-800 CE. Later, science and related modern subjects were flourished with great contribution of chain of Muslim scientists and intellectuals such as Jabir Ibne Haydn, Al-Razi, Al-Khawarzmi, Avicenna, Ibn Rushd etc.

Similarly realms of philosophy were filled by earlier Muslim philosophers such as Al-Kindi, Al-Gazzali, Ibn Arabi , Rumi and Mutzalites in addition with Islamic modernists in last few centuries. Through Islamic mystic traditions we know that our prophet Muhammad (PBUH) used to meditate and spend lonely in the caves, away from his family house in the city. A large number of common Muslims and Islamic scholars consider Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) also as ultimate spiritual master. There are many authentic sayings that reflects importance of purification of hearts, inner-self and recognising true God through self-discovery. In today’s world, these prophetic ways of struggle to achieve pure inner-self has been institutionalised known as Sufism, ‘Tasawwuf’, a mystic or philosophical version of Islam.

In the fields of personal development and spirituality, a very few Muslims philosophers have contributed as compared to size of geographical regions of 1.8 billion Muslim population across the world i.e. almost 1/4 th of the whole world. Those were included Rumi (1207 C.E.), Ibn Arabi ( 1165 C.E.) Al-Ghazali (1058 C.E.), Iqbal (1877 C.E.) and hundreds of local regional Sufi sheikhs in some Muslim countries.

Modern educated Muslims feel that they do not see clear and direct foundations/guidance from original Islamic literature in today’s pro-Islamic civilisation about modern subjects, issues, challenges and realms of personal and professional or business life such as Psychology, Human behaviour, Self-help, entrepreneurship and monies, Personal and leadership development.

Unfortunately, it seems that Muslims have done very little intellectual and practical works in this context, perhaps, due to the huge gaps and discontinuity with previous asset of Muslim scientists and philospher’s generations many hundreds years ago.

  • 4 In this context, If we Muslims would own Buddha’s philosophy and take its pearls as part of Islamic faith, perhaps, considering Buddha as prophet like others previous prophetic traditions, then we as Muslim individuals, groups and families can reconnect rich Islamic heritage in modern lines. Especially, we can empower ourself, explore self-improvement and purification of thoughts, discover Self and continue to re-write pure wisdom that fulfil challenges of modern Muslim minds.
  • 5 – On the other hand, being a dedicated Muslim, can we learn and explore Buddha’s and his teachings on secular level to cope the modern intellectual challenges?

There could be great benefits for Muslim youth to own Buddhist teaching to keep them inside folds of Islam because there are large concentrated intellectual and spiritual groups in the external world who owns Buddhist teachings as atheistic philosophy. Many people born and brought in western world are inspired by Buddhist philosophy certainly.

  • 6 If we try to connect Buddhist teaching as Islamic heritage along with Prophetic and Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) traditions than we can turn many scattered intellectual Muslims minds as ‘Theist’. Therefore, they can work positively in contemporary world towards peace and relevant modern developments in Muslim lands and across the world.

I believe that interesting results from above mentioned research questions or intellectual work to perceive and follow Buddhist teachings in Islamic paradigms, may also help the youth and modern educated Muslim community, keep away from fall into atheism.

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Happiness – Why some people live longer ? What factors are involved?

Main reasons to live longer:

•Happiness

•Nurturing

•Genes

•Life circumstances

•How we think and act – our response

Why Some countries are more happier?

Why Some countries are more unhappy ?

How we can measure happiness?

Factors more important contributing to happiness.

Can Money buy happiness?

Why People of Denmark are more happier than other countries?

Book reference: Thrive –  Finding happiness the Blue Zones way by Dan Buettner

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Are you scared of death ?

Are you scared of death?

People love to live longer but their lifestyle and thinking pattern and random motives do not allow their body to live longer. Longevity is something everybody must deserve except few among us why it is?

Physical intelligence allows our longevity genes to keep working on.

How physical fitness and exercise, Stress management and relaxation can play important role in our longevity and quality of the life?

Lets learn and discuss in the Sunday online free class session.

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.

When: Dec 13, 2020 08:00 PM London

Register in advance for this meeting:

https://zoom.us/meeting/register/tJIkceCoqD4uH9w4pGMGonj97yOxmaLUyZrP

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Where are you from? Identity theft ? Conscience level understanding Part 2

Does society give you identity or yourself?

Are your Country, religion, language, gender, sex, disability your identity? 

Your identity is your various system inside your body, mind or heart?

Your identity is reshaped by your nurturing or nature?

What is possible best solution or understanding of identity crisis ?

What is meant by surviving identities?

What is conscience and your greatness?

 

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Hate your job? | Job dissatisfaction | Why Need Career Change?| Why How?| Maratib Ali Shad

Contents:

1- Why you need job or work or career?

2- Why do you want this job?

3- What are main causes of job dissatisfaction?

4- Why we’re facing a ‘Good Jobs’ crisis?

5- Why Personal mission statement is important?

6- How you can change your career step by step?

7- How you can combine your knowledges, fields and skills to create new job?

contact:

maratib@maratibalishad.com

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Who am I? Physical or Spiritual Being?

Contents:

1- Our senses and physical world
2- What are meanings of facts?
3- External world and external reality
4- Relationships and universe
5- Inside me
6- Ego, superego and its development
7- Inside myself
8- Real vs Factual world
9- What is Spirit, soul, conscience?
10- Comparison between Ego and Spirit?

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Discover yourself Find your voice |Action, Thoughts, Emotions|Part 2|

Are you product of your actions?
Are you product of your thoughts only?.
or what you are due to your emotions?

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Part 3 Why Passion? Discover yourself Find your voice

Part 3 Why Passion? Discover yourself Find your voice

How following aspects make huge impact in identifying to know Who I am ?
1- Social Mirrors (EQ)
2- Disempowerment / Empowerment
3- Relationships / Empathy
4- Passion/Fearless/Courageous

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How we can achieve our life most profound goals in different roles. How we can achieve our big dreams?
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Why, How and What to design year 2020 goals seriously (training module)?

I’m going to help and coach you to design goals for your next 12 months, or the goals of year 2020.

Actually it is not difficult to set the goals for any productive individual but to achieve the goals and maintain the rhythm of achieving the goals is a really key and challenge. And also, it is very important to consider the your background of your successes and failures in different situation.

So, I’m going to discuss it seriously and my approach with you will be slightly different than in a mainstream goal setting with other methods.

There are couple of steps you need to take and during every step, requires deep sincerity and personal motivation So, in my 10 steps procedure of setting goals for next 12 months will require a lot of motivation and deep understanding of why we are doing this So let’s start.

STAGE 1 , Preparation

We need to understand who I am. Imagine that “I need to understand myself” on a very basic and foundation level. Because yourself is directly link to what you are thinking in present and what you are going to achieve with your connected and prospect future.

Because you, as identity is connected with your environment with your mind with your internal and external forces. Your nurturing, your genes, grandparents, ethnicity, social location and many other things.

However, once you will have a good understanding of your background, then you will make your life more easy and make realistic expectations.

Since you are the only unique person in whole entire world So that’s the stage one, will focus and analyse on yourSelf. what your achievements and failures you are lying behind. Why did you achieve those things, and why you became failed person in certain situations and events.

By 360 degree analyse your timeline with your life you will enter into stage no 2.

STAGE 2 , Think Big

You need to imagine Minimum three to four dreams of your life. It could be your financial goals, Career or Business goals, relationships and Personal Development goals etc. You need to write them down on the paper and than transfer them on the any digital or online planning tools as there are so many tools available.

One thing when you are writing your dreams, you need to write each and everything related to the dream, small or big.

For example, What is your purpose of this life. Since, you can divide your life in terms of personal, family, career or entrepreneur, social or political or religious etc.

Ask yourself, why you are living, How you are living and for what you are living. Why you want to achieve your goals, how you can achieve them and what activities you will do to achieve them. So you need to know first where do you stand in the world or society? and Where you want to go now ? It does make sense ! ?

Think big about your dreams. Think in terms of big numbers or big achievements. Like,

I would increase my income 5 times more or want to become millionaire or earn 6-figure.

I would lose my body weight by 20 kg

I want to part of squad of national sports Team.

I want to become national Political leader.

I would become CEO in google or want to become entrepreneurs.

I would visit whole world with my spouse or kids

I would write and publish my first book.

STAGE 3 – ROLES

Our life is like Jigsaw games that all roles needs to combine together to make complete picture of our life. So you can turn all dreams / purposes into roles and start to work on each role in order to achieve your big goal or dream.

Ideally one can have 5- 7 major roles where you can focus and each role will make a very significant development in journey of your life, is not ?

Fundamentally, for each role, you need to answer all following three questions.

Question 1 – WHY I want to achieve this goal? Why It is so important for me? Why it has significance in my life ? Why this purpose has special role in my life? Think in terms of philosophy, psychology way.

Question 2, HOW you will actually achieve this. Think numbers, qualitative or quantitative approach, procedures and methods etc

Question 3, WHAT activities or tasks you will be doing in order to achieve.Thinks in terms of operations, each small or medium or big activities, daily, weekly or monthly. Take example of losing 10 KG weight loss. Write down answers of Q1, Q2 & Q3.

STAGE 4, SMART GOALS & Milestones

Turn your roles into a realistic SMART goals. Well, when I say that smart goals, it does mean that you can track them any time that what the progress you are making. For example, I’ll need to drop 10 kg weight in next 6 months, and how you can do you can add regular exercise and wise nutrition etc and then obviously you can write further details.

You can turn your all goals progress in terms of quarterly and than monthly wise. Quarterly achievement you can call them as Milestones.

These milestones can be achieved by continuous work on your goals and break into monthly achievements. These monthly progress of goals will be outcome of your continuous weekly efforts. It does mean you are actually dividing your all goals in terms of milestones, monthly and weekly goals. Ofcourse, weekly goals achievement are reward of daily basis activities or tasks you are making. Is not ?

Another realistic goals. I need to make extra 10,000 pounds or dollars or rupees or Dirham in next 12 months by starting my part time business using my my some unique skills set. So, that how you are making your goals as a smarter. Don’t forget to splits goals into quarterly (milestones) and monthly and than weekly so on, it must include that timeframe, and very realistic approach of what you are going to make or create.

Another smart goal is about relationships. Obviously relationships goals are difficult to measure and track, however, you can put into some figures and numbers, because the miracle of mathematical figures or numbers, is that you still can make a lot of difference in relationship goals.

similarly there are so many smart goals you can create. Believe me you have unlimited potential and you just need to imagine and turns into your action and worlds is yours. So these are very important aspect of your life.

That’s how you can break down your dreams, and you can achieve any goal. Anyway, so this is the very realistic approach. I have helped myself by following these steps, and lots of my other clients, they have followed instructions and their life is superb and changed dramatically.

STAGE 5, TRACKING

Now it is time to take action, make progress on daily and weekly basis and tracking the progress on your scoreboard in your planning tool. Many experts recommend every night or every day you need to keep track but I would say at least twice in a week. One in mid week or and one at weekends.

Many people face lot of procrastination after setting goals when they think or take action. It is because of self-mental mechanism and fear of failure. Sometime, it is due to lack of self-discipline and poor knowledge of time management. I must recommend to read some good motivational books and articles or video to stay connected with your goals and all those your favourite self-help resources. Everyone is entirely unique so you need find your own method of motivation for fulfilling your dreams.

Tracking does not merely means to see whether you have reached expectations or beyond it but rather to change your goals according to reality would changed. Successful people edit their goals constantly after learning new things, observation, deep thinking, interact new realities they face every day. Key is to work on your planning tool consistently and vibrantly.

Is there anything needs to change is some reality is going to going to be change, or you need to add or remove something you need to add these things there. And hopefully, that will make you a very clear picture of next 12 months. And that’s very important.

STAGE 6, REWARD & SHARING

And the next stage is to share and teach this exciting learning to others. You can write a blogpost, turn your life passion into blogging, let other people to know that. How do you think about certain topics or because when you start to sharing or journaling, your stuff on regular basis that will give you more sense of maturity, confidence and more encouragement and motivation to achieve your goals. And don’t forget to celebrate achievement. Plan a motivation repetition system on each significant goal progress. Remember, celebration, or a party is very important and crucial for your own personal motivation. For example, After milestone of three months or a month, you can have a nice dinner with your partner, family, or do something, go for a movie or give a party for yourself. So, that is something you must need to do, because how the personal psyche psyche of the person works that we also needs to motivate ourselves.

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Understanding the Success : What is success?

For many people, success is a very dear concept in life in contrast to the failure we can not generalize the idea of success, however, in order to understand what success should be understood, I am describing here.
success can be defined in various ways and paradigms but the most popular image of success is to achieve something great not only in personal capacity but in public as well. for example, some people can earn more money quicker then other and that will be considered as personal and social success and the other people who remained poor or less privileged will be considered as the failure.
similarly, if someone, teams or organizations achieve something great according to their scheduled plan they will be considered victorious.

success in my point of view, is the very relative term we use in everyday life one important development in one’s life or in organizational change, can be viewed admirably or as a mediocre step. for example, if an individual has a list of achievements in his life, that can be considered a list of failure in other frames of reference or mindset.paradigms about being a truly successful or failure can be varied with person to person, culture to culture, and civilization to civilization from here we develop the idea of the superiority of certain types of individuals, organizations, and cultures over others. sometimes it creates the negative impact on all stack holders. In today’s world, many problems and conflicts between person’s, and cultures are the outcome of same thinking pattern, one does not acknowledge the success of other or show an envy.

There’s is a famous quotation of Einsteins:-
“The significant problems, we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

There’s always need of upgrade’s of mindset, thinking pattern and broader perspective it does also mean that one method of success in any generation may or may not be successful in next generation because of limiting beliefs, confined scientific, modern knowledge and incorrect paradigms sometimes generations or cultures  cannot determine what, why and how things are required in this contemporary  world.

Actually, in my point of view success is very personal phenomena it should not always be generalized because like I said earlier success is varied from person to person. Any person can be successful if he or she is achieving what they have scheduled in their planning and goals of life whether on personal or professional capacity.
A key indicator’s of being the truly successful individual is a high degree of personal satisfaction, clarity, great and simple communication, self-discipline, integrity, vision, passion and conscious. Of course, a positive and successful person is a whole person creative driving force to achieve greatness. The ripples of these great will be sprinkled to the external world automatically, not deliberately.

The degree of maturity of a successful person can be judged with the fact that an individual is living with balance life that is 360.360 degrees life means he or she is progressing in all major or selective areas of life steadily with their conscious effort to drive themselves in their journey of life regardless of criticism, procrastination and self-limiting beliefs from others.
“The history of the freeman is never by chance but by choice-their choice”
by Dwight D.eisenhower

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15 points – Customer Service is not only limited to…

I would like to share with you that Customer Service is one of a great profession in all industries. Nowadays Customer Service is very challenging but so much potential to learn new skills and polishing skills. As like other trades, Minicab or Taxi industry has so many expectations from customer service agents like you and other of your colleagues are. Every major organization in the current market is getting the edge over other based on practicing highest values of customer services.

Here are 15 points that you can consider before planing to excel your job role:

  1. Customer service is not limited to serve only the customers but also all stake holders of the organisation. It is not limited to only taking calls but also serving them.
  2. Customer service is not only limited to entering data but also reporting any major or minor incidents or events connected with operations.
  3. Customer service is not only limited to stick with your computer screen but also working (digitally & physically) as part of the team in the office.
  4. Customer service is not only limited to individual capacity to deal with visitor inquiries or customers queries but also building a relationship with them.
  5. Customer service is not only limited to talking over the phone but also giving genuine feeling to the customers on the other end of the phone.
  6. Customer service is not only giving cab service to the customer but also showing them the reflection of the mission of the company i.e. Amazing, Reliable and Experienced.
  7. Customer service is not only limited to deal all inquiries or queries or complaints, individually but also escalating concerning the matter to relevant departments within the organization. call-1357566_1280
  8. Customer service is not only following particular instructions within job role but also very much expandable by expanding vision about customer services and upgrading the role to the next level of service.
  9. Customer service is not only too many calls continuously with pressure but also showing a great sense of responsibility to show same great service passion to the customer on the other end of the phone as a proactive contributor.
  10. Customer service is not only to work as an individual but also part of the big plan of a synergistic team designed by effective management of the organization.
  11. Customer service is not only booking travel information into the system but also reserving expectations of the customer for current job and next job.
  12. Customer service is not only the first eye of contact of the company but also ever lasting impression upon a customer for rest of their life.
  13. Customer service role cannot only be important milestone for your professional career but create and make loyal connections of the outer world with the company.
  14. Customer service role is not only high paid role in the modern world but also a great contributor to the organizational annual financial targets.
  15. Customer service is not a fixed enclosed role with limited set of expectations but also provide the foundations of becoming leader in your role and all possible upgraded roles in future.
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Power of believes system or Paradigms

All things are possible to the person who believes they are possible. NAPOLEON HILL

Believes system for man is like a network of billions of psycho-neuron cells that generate thoughts to make emotions so that their body can move independently to achieve something or act on in liaison spiritual intelligence. It is so powerful that drive man towards whether the path of mediocre or path of greatness. It may also refer as paradigms that mean mental maps or pattern of thoughts that define objects or events in unique ways.

Very high self-esteemed people have powerful believe so that they don’t get influence from the environment. They are proactive and have won on self so that they not only work independently but also interdependently as a team in office and family. The correctness of beliefs depends on the purity of thoughts or principles based paradigms that people choose to adopt from different stages i.e. childhood or nurturing, genes or nature or through their own choice.

Dr. Stephen put Paradigm in this way,
“Paradigm commonly used today to mean a perception, assumption, theory, frame of reference or lens through which you view the world. It’s like a map of territory or city. If inaccurate, it will make no difference how hard you try to find your destination or how positively you think – you’ll stay lost. If accurate, then diligence and attitude matter. But not until. ” (The 8th Habit – 2003)

Many centuries ago, famous scientist Francesco Redi discovered a fact against long lasted false belief under which they knew that maggots could be spontaneously generated from meat. Since Germs theory verify that every phenomenon or event is in the result of tiny microscopic insects called germs and nothing can be happened but due to germs. This amazing discovery open new dimension and change paradigms of medical science existed from centuries.

Believes in vital values such as dignity, honesty, and integrity are edges of rope of success. No short-cuts or alleyways should provide you keys to the road of success. Although, it seems path through main functions such as Vision, Discipline, Passion, and conscience, are difficult and long to walk over, however, it is only true reality to set on if you are a believer on true and long lasting success.

One of the biggest challenges is to believe on work in current information knowledge work age which had laid behind industrial mindset. Both mindsets are opposite to each other. You cannot get heartfelt success personally or in form of teams or whole company if you are lacking ingredient of requirement of modern age such as principle based leadership vision, considering employees as asset and machines as liability , whole person-paradigm, not partial individual, shared-vision, great alignment within departments, empowerment and all connected with high trust. These are fundamental beliefs of the modern and natural paradigm of success. Author John Gardner once said, ” Most ailing organizations have developed a functional blindness to their own defects, They are not suffering because they cannot resolve their problems, but because they cannot see their problems.”

If you believe on principle based success and associated values, it is imperative not to concentrate on disempowering environment or people. It is a famous fable that Once a deaf frog was dropped into a deep well and it was hard to come out. All nearby frogs gathered around the well to criticize that why did he drive into a deep well. All were shouting or mocking the Frog. Since that frog could not hear and the Frog was a focus to climb up the walls of the well to come out. He assumed positively that all frogs were motivating him that come on, come on, you could come out. Eventually, that frog came out of well and everyone was so astonished that how he could survive and he said that he was not aware that all other frogs were criticizing, all frogs were pushing for him to come out, he explained.

Like a frog, we all believe on our strengths and don’t put our ears on others criticism and negative thoughts. Believe in yourself and you will be succeeded like a frog.
Theory of relativity and modern Science after Isaac Newton 1700 or beyond changed belief systems of previous all generations. Therefore, inventions and discoveries in all fields such as mechanics, electronics, genetics, physics, mathematics etc are more frequent with greater speed than before, all due to change of mind-set and believe on new tools, thoughts, and skills-set.

Dr. Stephen once said, “If you want to make minor, incremental changes and improvements, work on practices, behavior or attitude. But if you want to make significant, quantum improvement, work on paradigms.”

In historical perspective, if religious paradigms were aligned with scientific and modern knowledge based developments, it had played a significant role in building faith based nations like Muslims. Old Muslims used to have powerful believes that their faith and revelation also support and source of encouragement for discoveries, inventions and learning modern knowledge. Since those beliefs led foundations of modern science and culture and built a creative golden age of Muslim Civilisation that stretched from Spain to China for many hundreds of years. Since those beliefs disappeared, a nation turned into entirely different downward fall. Some wonders of those beliefs were Lighthouse of Alexandria (one of the wonders of the Ancient World), The House of Wisdom: Baghdad’s intellectual Powerhouse, top Medical books, beautiful and majestic mosques, Ibn Sina’s ‘Canon book, a medical reference in Europe for 500 years!, Extra ordinary women from the Golden Age of Muslim Civilisation, Al-Jahiz’s Book of Animals, The Rise of papermaking industry, Where algebra got is name from, stunning ceilings from wonders of Islamic Architecture, The Islamic Roots of modern Pharmacy, Glass industry,  amazing Mechanical devices and clocks and top popular cities were under civilisation of believers !

Social mirrors are very many functions of beliefs of the people in a certain society. illiteracy and without a sense of self-actualization, nations turn into the backward crowd who follow low values and unproductive traditions. People tend to see their success and failure in terms of beliefs and social mirrors. For example, a society where Doctor or Engineer or rich Businessman is considered only high rank of success is a good example of poor social mirrors.

It is important how you see yourself you become. A child of an elephant is generally chained with rope and he thinks that he cannot break and hence he cannot be free himself. The Same elephant when gets an adult, still thinks that he cannot get rid of a chain, even when he has enormous power to break it anytime but an adult elephant cannot because he has thought that he was and is limited. If you want to achieve big you need to break chains of ignorance from your mind.

People and nations who believe in a power of Character Ethics they develop more mature and successful children who do not believe in success on personal ethics. They believe that success is a consistent journey led by the sequential development of Physical, Mental, Social or emotional or Spiritual intelligence.

In recent modern history is witnessed that how few individuals transformed their people in the country and achieved massive from scratch. Such as Mother Teresa, Malala, Gandhi, Nelson Mendela, Edhi, Arunima Sinha, Founding fathers of United States of America, Churchill, and all Prophets, are few examples who were born to believe in serving their people and reshaped their destiny.

If you are Office Professional/House wife/ unemployed/Manager/Director/CEO or thinking to change your career and you want write mission statement of your life, Team or organisation, or want to set personal or organisational goals, or you are finding your own voice or purpose or you want to identify and separate wrong beliefs or social mirrors from correct belief, than sign up to book free session with me.
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6 steps to plan your year 2015 great

To plan a year is the best and ideal action for successful individual. These productive leaders design their mission and goals of life. It leads to some big milestones of their life. It is directly proportional to personal effectiveness, improving relationships, increasing wealth, achieving dreams and spiritual gratification. We can achieve these milestones in different but steady years of our life. It can be further divided into single many years achievement. There is good news for you that today is extremely best time and offering you superb opportunity for plan your year. Since year 2015 is at your hand and you are excited, thrilled and passionate about it so you can consider this year as unit-success to achieve your all milestones.

Now question is how you can make this year 2015 more productive with effectiveness that you require to maintain. Certainly it needs following five ingredients:

Goals, tasks, Calendar, mission, values, roles, year 2015, Time Management

Goals, tasks, Calendar, mission, values, roles, year 2015, Time Management

  • Mission, purpose and set of goals
  • Personal Motivation
  • Time Management skills
  • Planning tools (Paper or digital)
  • Sharpen the Saw

If you have not yet started to plan your year you must realize that this is the finest time for you. I would say because if you delay or postpone this vital yearly planning time, your next days and weeks can distract your attention and de-motivated you and you will be in state of motionlessness or on path of mediocrity. I strongly suggest you to take charge of your life right now.
Bottom line of this post is,

“Think seriously, write professionally and act with free independent will to achieve your mission, goals and tasks for year 2015”.
Here I will help you that how you can design your own year 2015. You are just few steps away to create your future.

Please follow six easy steps:

STEP 1: First find your favorite time, place and environment where you feel really peace, calmness and privacy. For example some people find early morning or late night or at library or Gardens or far from city etc.

STEP 2: Secondly, Imagine and mediate yourself about in future by closing your eyes when you would be celebrating your 80th birthday. Imagine about those key people such as family, friends and work associates would be around you. Suppose If they were given one piece of paper with pen and ask them to write about you that how did they would have found you in their life. Just think what sort of appreciations, characteristics and values they would be describing & writing on paper on this most important 80th birthday of your life. What things, events and greatness they would be amalgamating with you. Jot down each and every coming thoughts in your mind. This is will enable you to compile draft list of various points related to different dimensions of your life and it could be your relationships, humanistic universal values and feelings. It is really important and special.

STEP 3: Now read paper again and again, divide all written things, sentences, feelings and voices into Values, Roles and Goals.

Please remember that Values are those moral words with feelings such as integrity, humility, punctual, confidence, balance, maturity, vision, passion, trustworthy, hard-work, agility, organize, adaptability, thoughtful etc.

Roles are your key relationships and social positions, for example As Manager, Teacher, Volunteer, Accountant, Assistant, Father, Mother and Community worker etc.

And Goals are interconnected with your thoroughly life practical achievements with help of your values in certain roles. For example, one possible your goal for an effective Administrative Manager could be: “I will be reshaping some of vital administrative work of my department in my company by relocation data and files of thousands of customers on paper to digital document drive till 31st Dec 2015”.

Being business leader, CEO or entrepreneur your wild goal could be:  “to generate revenue of one million pounds by using dynamic electronic marketing tools at end of Dec 2015”.

As community worker: “I would be assisting my supervisor in doing at least feedback surveys with our 5000 active club members for improving customer services throughout year 2015”.

STEP 4: Keep revising and composing above goals, roles and values (prepared in step 3) every day for at least 1-2 weeks. Make sure you add or remove contents until it become homogeneous. You can insert images in the content to make inspiring and attractive presentation for yourself. Make realistic and achievable goals. Think concretely and straightforwardly toward your goals to achieve it. Make even short terms as many goals which lead toward big goal or life event or accomplishment.

STEP 5: Ideally you should also hire a Personal Coach for achieving your goals. Qualified and experience Coach in specific niches will inspire your energies, unleash your hidden potential, will be proven as greatest source of motivation in achieving your life goals for any role. Hold at least 2-4 coaching sessions with your coach on-line or on-site and share your vision, goals for next year 2015. Work on it. Take the inspiration from your Coach in finding more best available methods to achieve your goals. How to maintain the discipline is your one of challenge.

STEP 6:
Lastly, set a personal reward system for your achievement either weekly or monthly achievement. Involve yourself in some fun, party, great dinner on intimacy, once you achieve something important. It will help you more to stay connected with your goals and vision.

In following above step 2, during designing your goals you can keep four vital dimension of your life. i.e. Body, Mind, Heart and Spirit. You must craft your goals in alignment of your needs of physical fitness, emotional management, passion of life and conscience endeavors. It will lead you to spend whole year with balance and enjoyment.

For example Goals related to your physical needs could be; loss weight or maintaining fitness with choosing wise nutrition and commitment of not for bad eating.

Goals related to mental growth can be such as reading or writing valuable book, getting admission in short or long diplomas or degree for doing systematic education and learning.

Improving relationship goals such as with spouse, partner, Boss, co-workers are so important and vital for your life happiness. Make these goals and do not feel isolate. Because losing quality of relationships or break-up can lead for seriously life failure. So enrich your relationships with genuine emotional attachment.

and finally spiritual intelligence can emphasize you to make goals those are attached with sacred causes or divine literature or holy modern or traditional personalities watering your wisdom and increasing your sense of differentiate between right and wrongs and help in awakening and maturing your conscience.

Remember, failure in focusing and designing goals of your real needs of your body, mind, heart and spirit in Year 2015 will result in imbalance and can lead to path of mediocrity or some time uncertainty and demoralization. Remember key is balance that will precede you toward growth and adapt constant change through time of year till 31 Dec 2015 until these goals will connect with your next year 2016 goals and next until all years achievements will become parts of whole life mission.

If you are really interested, I can offer you 45-60 minutes coaching session on Skype or one-one in London. Please send me your interest on maratib@maratibalishad.com

Feeling your genuine smile!

Good luck for your year 2015!!!

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A child shapes your character and personality and basically governs your whole life?

In today’s domains of management gurus, psychology experts and biologists scientists are choosing their preferences from very interesting discussion that how much important nature or nurture in the success of an individual or there is other reality as well? In addition, how much important is actually, the age of childhood in shaping one’s life.
I think this is very fundamental question comes in the mind. Many theories and interpretations have been discussed in academia and in leadership development training institutes.
Is it really genetic or environmental or psychic causes or there is another fact beyond it? Sometime people become so determinist and sometime optimistic. On the other hand God has sent down man to contribute and live to leave legacy, how much this believe is so powerful or thoughtful.
My Purpose is to explore to see different point of views and at the end we can find some comprehensive outcomes.

Nurture or Nature

Nurture or Nature

Last week, I put this discussion on Facebook and LinkedIn and asked many people and experts on different networks on internet. I found various responses and different perspective for this great quest.
Let me tell you first what question was asked.
Here It is:

Question: What are your thoughts on this:
Freudian psychology which postulates that whatever happens to you as a child shapes your character and personality and basically governs your whole life. The limits and parameters of your life are set, and , basically , you can’t do much about it”.

( Extracted from book “The 7 habits of Highly Effective People” by Dr. Stephen R. Covey, p-69,1989)

I am sharing here those and some valuable opinions and answers of people which they shared with me on social networks. It will give us broader view from different minds about this very subject. I am copying them here as it and we will continue this discussion until we reach on greatest conclusion.

“I believe it’s true our up bringing does shape us but I also believe people can change their character & personality. I’m a living example my character changed! No one life goes without difficulty that they can’t blame. When people blame they give up their power to change”.

“There is shaping, but it isn’t set in stone. How you choose to respond to what was done in your youth and how you were shaped… your response is totally up to you. Some choose to respond with ” This is how I am.” Others choose to respond with “How can I overcome? How can I be more in spite of what was and currently is?” Mind is our servant and will work with whatever we give it. In the first choice, mind is given a command to continue affirming what is. In the second choice, mind is given a quest, command of transformation. Mind works to fulfill what we give”.

Robert responds to my question like this:

“What you say sounds good, and I believe choice plays a role shaping one’s life. As much as I respect the work of the late Stephen Covey, my experience informs me that many psychological problems and disorders related to childhood can’t be healed through choice. If I understand your response correctly the complex field of psychology can be reduced to one theory of choice?
Faced with many challenging executive coaching assignments over several decades has prompted me to forge collaborative working relationships with talented psychotherapists who are skilled at addressing the unconscious issues while my work stays on the organizational/conscious side of the boundary where I’m trained. In such cases the client is asked to grant permission for us to work as a team in support of shared outcomes”.

One posting from Leon says here:
Dear Maratib:
First of all Freud never said that the “The limits and parameters of your life are set, and , basically , you can’t do much about it”. That’s what psychoanalysis is all about, a way to deal with the things in your past to improve your present condition.
Now in regards to the choice factor, I agree with Robert. Human behavior is a very complex construct that can not be altered just by the simple exercise of personal choice, there are external and internal aspects that affect the process of changing ones life, for instance, paradigms, resources, knowledge, support systems, even protein intake. Now having said that, I do agree we can change our condition and improve it for good, as far as some of all the factors of this equation align to produce the desired change.
Finally, Dr. Covey (a founder of my Master’s Program) didn’t have it all right, or at least scientifically supported.

In light of above two responses of Leon and Robert I replied as:
Robert and Leon, What i have understood from you valuable thoughts that there are many complexities within brain, psychological and biological which cannot fit to the theory of power of choice as Dr. Stephen’s whole work’s philosophy originates i believe. right?
If so than my response would be:
I think that power of choice is relevant to those emerging individuals and minds who are living or want to live/grow/contribute in their personal and outer world. Weak or mentally ill or distorted childhood brain with physically damaged, cannot make choices because of their limitations and illness. They should consult with therapists, counselors and medical doctors. Because the whole idea of chose and success literature is for dynamic individual who are not depend on at least any major illness or such psychological complexities as you are mentioning.
To practice choices are functions and habits of leaders only.

some other responses are shown as below:

“i m supporter of frued psychoanalytical theory , because early experiences really play large role in personality development and continue to influence behavior later in life. But if we talk about change yes we change but it is purely an individual effort and very less of us could manage to do so”.

“Stays in subconscious for most part which does control majority of our unconscious behavior and habitual patterns and reactions. Once one becomes aware, and thru working with a coach like us, they can choose to change, transform, transmute, transcend and evolve negative thoughts beliefs patterns behavior and be best version of themselves as they allow it and take action towards it”.
Between stimulus & response there is space
“Stephen Covey wold disagree (and I could be wrong but he preferred Jung). He acknowledged that upbringing powerfully influences your character and personality but ultimately you, as a human, have the choice to do and be otherwise”.

“I don’k know how to represent either one of these two gentlemen, but from my own course of life I strongly disagree. I am much different than I was years ago, stronger, overcam many obstacles, and transformed my life several times through changing jbaits, coaching, etc. Unless THAT, too, was predetermined, which I very seriously doubt”.

I believe it does, but other things that happen later on do change people. Maturity and growth are a big factor. I know I had a habit from childhood, and it was associated with events and stress, I did feel powerless and I almost gave it to the feeling but no, I’m stronger than that come on, anyone can redesign what they believed in when they were young. Everyday we have choices and let’s hope we choose well. I needed and was a puppy that wanted to be loved by everyone, I learnt that not everyone loves you, and it’s better to change that really quickly otherwise one gets hurt. So to an extend, we are the way we are but let’s not accept all of it. Keep an open mind.

I believe it helps shape our character and personality but does not have to define us. We all have the ability to make choices in our lives and change the direction if we want to.

Interesting thought, but I cannot agree. We decide every day, with our options at hand, what kind of life we wish to create for ourselves. It’s the habits we develop, and the daily decisions we make taking into account the personal mission statement we have designed, that create the future we determine. I truly believe that life should be lived “looking forward”.

I agree with most, we make choices every day that decide our fate. I’ve seen a peer that had an unfortunate childhood become a veterinarian and another who had a great childhood end up working the 2nd shift in the light bulb factory. However, I believe it easier for some due to a more positive environment growing up. Thanks!

We as humans have learned to re-invent ourselves and manage our emotions. We can’t always control our hot button’s created during childhood, though we can manage how we react to them when pushed. This is habit 1.

“I’m a believer that we have choice. Once you see that the young you didn’t have the depth of awareness needed to split the event from your version of the event, you can reframe the past and therefor set your future”.

“Sorry i Disagree – it is your mindset that changes every thing around you. It is your attitude towards life that determines your altitude.
“If you think you can or you cannot – in both cases you are right”

 

“I believe that your personality is shaped when you are young and due to your upbringing you may be timid, shy, confident etc. But as an adult you have the choice and now the information to be able to change any character flaws that you developed in childhoods”.

“I believe that the experiences you have as a child play a big part in self defining tracks that play in my mind.
Habits and triggers are formed from repeated experiences which almost create a rut in your brain; when X happens to me, I turn right and take this path of reaction. It takes a lot of work to grab the wheel and choose to steer down a different path however it can be done.
The wonder of human existence is having free will and the ability to learn, grow and change. Alvin Toffler said “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn”. This quote was not meant to reflect human character and personality, however I still believe it applies. We can learn new ways to respond to stimuli and choose new ways to react.
Your childhood is where you start and none of them are idealistic. What you choose to do next is up to you”.

“Freud stimulated ideas from his stimulated thinking as he sought stimulation. The pleasure principle is instinctively and emotionally driven and is at the bedrock of human development. There seems to more that might govern one’s life than the areas Freud was concentrating on”.

“Maratib, to me Freud stood somehwere at the beginning of public Western opinions on psycology, meaning he started a discussion which had been neglected for thousend of years, in western cultures that is.
Thousends of years ago people already learned about human behavior and pretty more nuanced than Freud ever described it.
Yes as long as you are able to maintain your sense of innocence and creativity you evolve and enrich your self-and people knowledgde. And yes for most the first years are the most impressionable, assuming your creativity and sense of innocence slowly get depressed and replaced by rationals through “socialisation”and education.
Still once you reached some level of maturity your tend to go out and seek to get back to the state of mind and freedom you once had?
Are they therefore all set and not to be influenced? no way, to easy.
There are loads of cultural influences, preferences, personal competencies, genetic imprint and basic instinctive behaviors to consider.
I agree that whatever you experience early on during impressionable years will influence you and affect the way you percieve and experience life to be, yet not set it, certainly not that you cannot do anything about it.
I find that to be the poorest excuse, you might not be ale to completly change and do a 180 on certain topics and behaviors, but you can and should evolve if only to cope with the only constant being change itself.
have fun”.

“See my animation about eg Freud : http://youtu.be/H0PsxiioTDw

“Maratib, interesting question. As you mentioned, this has been a key Philosophical question for sometime. We have come to find out as time moves forward that many views presented as fact by well-known philosophers, have been dis-proven or modified to accommodate a better understanding of what is known to be true today. Earth is flat, Sun revolves around the Earth, Dark Matter and other moving targets. Events that happen to us as we grow up definitely influence who we are as individuals and as cultural societies. Typically, the individual is presented with the event and decides if they will react to that event. I do not subscribe to the believe that individuals can’t do much about how they allow it to influence them. It’s up to each of us to choose our own vehicle that takes us forward from that event to the next step in our lives. Some my select anger, others may choose compassion and some may select understanding”.

“For the most part, behavior is set by the age of six. No one knows the percentage contributed by genetics and by environment, but both matter. Can people change? Sure, but usually as a result of a significant emotional event (divorce, death of a loved one, etc). Otherwise, what you see at six is what you get at sixty. Are people prisoners to their behaviors? Yes, unless they use a model like DISC (or something similar) to learn the strengths and limitations of their behavior style. Once learned, salespeople can use their intelligence instead of their emotions (their “emotional intelligence”) to improve their interactions with their clients”.

“It is a bit short-sighted…throughout our life, different events, actions, choices, etc would bring rational or irrational fears in our lives; with which, we have to deal with, thus, we would get shaped (character, emotions, skills, thoughts,…). I see it as a never ending cycle until our last breath. Surely…childhood experiences strongly shape our future self, but indefinitely. Imagine, if someone gets bullied most of his/her childhood. How strong that individual must become to overcome its fears and come out as a better person!? Even more importantly, how long would it take to change one’s perception”?

“It has been a Long mind/thought War beetween Behavioural psicology and The traditional Freudian one. And more contributions have been added by Lacan and Eric Berne and some recent studies from Winnicot. It’ a fact our first 5-6 years personal events strongly influence our beliefs and way of thinking and living emotions; this do not automatically Mean the human being as to be An unmouldable set of cause-reaction mosaic. The innest “machine” in some Way work for ever in The same Way But it’ a possible effort to adapt and change the Way each single individual live everyday actions and emotions. Why can different individuals pass through the same disruptive events surviving Them or being injuried for all the Life Long? Here stand the great trasformation Power given to any human being to learn How to manage herself/himself starting by a Long and honest inside job. If you know the “Inner machine” working everyday in any of your action and thought you have a great power to influence and chance your life; in a different Way I would say as to be almost impossible or a lottery ticket Win !“.

“Hello Maratib, having spent two years studying the irrational, covert and unconscious side of organisational life at an esteemed psycholanalytic institute in NYC it is my opinion that our childhood experience (the subconscious as a tape recorder) plays a significant role in how we view and interact in the adult world. I also believe with the proper support we as human beings can grow beyond the “projected” beliefs and limitations (head trash) we “introjected” as defenseless child”.

In the light of above opinion, I personally believe that It is human choice to make him greater and different beyond past, race, colour, language, region and social setup. This is called dignity of human. You have power to choose your own response any time beyond genetic, environmental and biological reasons. Today, most of dynamic individuals have not even normal childhood but since they have choose to take control on their life, they are unique, star and role models for millions other. It is unique spiritual voice which anyone can be aware of and start to follow it, no matter, what kind of worse current or past circumstances are. Dr. Stephen’s principle of Personal Vision i.e. Be proactive, basically teaches that charge your life at any moment beyond any pressure and leave your legacy.

He put this fact in his famous book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness:

“We are a product of neither nature nor nurture; we are a product of choice, because there is always space between stimulus and response”.

Covey also points out it by saying that “I am what I am” and “I am where I am because I so choose to be there”

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Identify key Roles and Relationships of Life

Once you build your Personal Mission Statement, you are set on path of greatness and now depend how much you are stuck with it and live by it.

Next step after development mission statement, you need to identify key and important people and functions in your life.

Remember that balance life is key of successful life. We need to keep balance in all roles. It is also greatest challenge of modern world. Management Guru Stephen R. Covey says:

“Many people seem to think that success in one area can compensate for failure in other areas. But can it really? True effectiveness requires balance”.

Do you have idea how you can know about vital people and contribution of your life? Just think!!

Let me tell you now.

Referring to previous exercise of celebrating 80th birthday and you had imagined those people around you, are really important relations. After thinking those people you can now imagine key areas of your life and that each area will be key role of your life.

For example, on 80th birthday people would be children, spouse, colleagues, community workers etc. Suppose Sarah and Adam are two supposed individuals who are keen to change their life and do something extra ordinary.

Roles of Life

Roles of Life

now their roles will be:

1. Adam as Husband

or Sarah as Wife

2. Adam as Father

or Sarah as Mother

3.  Adam as Director

or Sarah as Assistant

4. Adam as community worker

or Sarah as Designer

5. Adam as sportsman

or Sarah as sport lady

6. Adam/Sarah as Student

7. Adam/Sarah as Friend

so on.

Usually, you can choose 5-7 key roles, around which your life should be circulating with.

However, in my opinion above mention roles are very traditional and look ordinary. Ideally ordinary. is not?

This step will make each role very special in your life.

For example, if you have identifying husband or wife, you can give new title As Caring partner.

Let’s try to give new and extra-ordinary titles to above supposed roles:

1. Adam as Hubby (Husband)

Sarah as best friend ( Wife)

2. Adam as DAD (Father)

or Sarah as Mom (Mother)

3. Adam as Catalyst for Change (Director)

or Sarah as great department supporter ( Assistant)

4. Adam as great humanistic leader (community worker)

or Sarah as creative art lover (designer)

5. Adam as super sportsman (Footballer)

or Sarah as fitness expert (sports lady)

6. Adam/Sarah as keen Learner (student)

7. Adam/Sarah as Empathic listener (Friend)

Congratulation! you have learn how to develop key roles of your life.

Remember, that all these role(s) and people should be in your imagination when you would celebrate your 80th birthday and also these roles may also be involved in your personal mission statement. ideally your mission statement should have indicated your roles of life.

You can also interpret these roles and can write your own definitions because it is your life. you can ask several question to yourself and write their answer on your diary.

Q1.  What is this role meaning in the life?

Q2. Why this role is important for me?

You must have unique roles as your life is unique. In this world you are really different person and you need to define your role(s).

Awesome!

Now you will be have more control on your life and will also resolve the problem like work-Life balance.

If you are facing difficulty in assigning different roles of your life. You can fill out the following quick form and I will try to answer you as soon as possible.

In next article, I will discuss with you about goal settings of your life which is very crucial for your life. Please be remembered this article and video demonstration are part of series of “How to live by Effective Time Management Principles”.

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Personal Mission Statement, Let’s build

People and business professionals are struggling to maintain their all daily to-do list, tasks, emails and correspondences related to personal, family, Team, clients, community, projects, staff and associates. of course everyone is following some of time management formulas.  which are not really source of their contentment. Effective Time Management is one of greatest challenges of today’s world where everybody is extremely busy to meet daily, weekly and monthly need of time but they are not really happy and at the end of day, they show as lethargic and with low motivation for their next day.

 

 

It means that majority of people living today is without purpose of life that’s why they are not excited for their tomorrow.

But good news is that we can meet this challenge with most effective time management principle.

Before telling you Effective Time Management skills for 100% fulfilling promise for every need, work and role of your life you need to build your own life and very personal Mission Statement. This is one of the greatest step of a leader’s life. You are the own leader of your life. You need to prove it.

Personal Mission Statmetn

Personal Mission statement

To think and write mission statement is one of fundamental personal initiative of any successful individual. Here I am not going to tell you write mission statement for your family, team and organisation but only for your very personal and secret life.

Personal mission statement is your life constitution which will drive you in entire course of your life successfully and with greatest satisfaction and contentment. It will make you master of your life. Because you have decided to create and design your own life course with own wishes, thoughts and priorities.

Personal mission statement belongs to your spiritual intelligence and give your really purpose and meaning of your life for your ultimately gratification.

Dr. Stephen R. Covey says:

All things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation to all things.

Are you read to build and write it? hmmm?

Let’s go.

Right from the beginning, please buy or arrange your personal calendar diary from any local store (in case if you do not have), also arrange pen and notepad for draft and rough notes.

Make sure that you are sitting now in very peaceful environment and this moment is that best time when your energy of the day is maximum. Some people feel very pleasant at Dawn or in early in the morning, or sitting in the garden or library. This session should take couple of hours of your life but very important because you are going to create your own destiny and you have decided that you are going to live your own life rather than becoming cultural software and product of circumstances. is it?

Now, put on side every thing and close your eyes and imagine you are celebrating your 80th birthday and every important person in your life is around you. They are praising you. These people could be your children, grandchildren, spouse, colleagues, brothers, sisters, friends, relatives, business associates, neighbours, students and community or religious bodies. Imagine now, you are sharing milestones of your life with them. You are sharing your life achievements, your worthy experiences, conclusions, principles, values under you lived by, your successful journey and quality of thoughts and life.

Similarly, in further imagine on the same day, all people around you, are praising you and acknowledging your character, competencies and your life achievements and they are saying that you have been….. like this ….and this……., throughout your life ….and you were…. and are….. and will be as ….. (write here what do you wish to say about your on that day and write it…)

and now open your eyes and write the following three questions:

Question 1: What are list of achievements, goals, experiences, values, executed-plans and milestone you would be sharing with all people around you on that day?

Question 2: What do you want to listen from people around you? what should they be saying about you on that very day?

Question 3: What legacy do you want to leg-behind to the people after your life?

Question 4: What values you would be live by throughout in your life (from now to onward)?

Well-done! you are set on the journey to create your dream life.

Now next step are to think about couple of aspect of your important life and also write the answers of following questions:

Question 5: Identify one or two persons who have impact on your thoughts and life positively? How did that person(s) have influenced your life, in what aspects what values you took from this person and why you admire him most?

Appreciated!

You need now to review what you have written on your notepad. You can circle, key ideas and key people within these question.

One important thing that mission statement could by half of page, few solid lines, more pages, a poem and an inspirational text or manifestation script or else. Its your own life you can choose in your own way. Hurrah!

Remember, this statement is like a seed of your life which will turn into powerful mature tree with fruits.

This is a rough draft of your personal mission statement which is not final yet. Now spend more quality time next few days with this draft until week finish and you continue to work on it. This brainstorming is extremely important. You can add or delete some points, key people, roles, achievements as you need. After few days you will see you do not need to add or delete anything more.

That is your Final mission statement. Congratulation!!!!

Happy and complete life through personal mission statement

Happy and complete life through personal mission statement

Amazing thing you created in your life!!! Awesome

Now you can transfer this statement to your personal and secret diary and you can also note it digitally.

What if you want to change it later, after few weeks or months?

Don’t worry, you can change it anytime. Because change means growth. Because successful life is very dynamic and many new things, roles and challenges come you can add or remove later.

Ideally, you can review it after ever month and you many ask yourself that is that mission statement is truly representing myself what I am going with and what I want to achieve and live by eventually?

If you heart solid answer YES from your inside and then there should be time of celebration!

This is personal mission statement of your life and live by it and inspire others.

Be remember that power of this mission statement depend on how you are sincere and give it quality time and you work on it.

After this I will be discussing with you how we can derive roles of our life and then goals of life in next steps.

Note: Please note that article is in connection with the series ” How to live by effective Time Management Principles”.

If you need any help to build your personal life mission statement and have any question. You can discuss with me and fill the following short form. I will contact you as son.

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Leadership and Management Trainings – an Effective Paradigm

Preface – Is the business leadership subject of Management or it is covering all roles of life of an individual. Are we enough able to develop engaged and committed employees? Or do we see ourselves as great carer or parent? Are we enough self-aware that we are directly or indirectly connected with our cultural and social roots and at the same time we are making significant contribution to our organisation, family, society and the world?

Great author Dr. Stephen R. Covey says;

“I don’t define leadership as becoming CEO. A CEO is no more likely to be a leader than anymore else. I am talking about leading own life, being a leader among your friends, being a leader in your own family”.

These are very important and contemporary questions for contemporary and demanding minds. We are missing definite certain principle based believes-set that would modify our Industrial mind to information or knowledge worker age and it would prepare us against those societal forces, out of which we can choose to respond. We are product our generation-to-generation transferred attitude or we have our own wisdom of freedom to do or meditate against historical standards. I am victim of this lifestyle or thinking pattern because my parents & my family have been nurturing with this environment or we have our own voice that can create great relationships and humanitarian events.

Leadership and management Trainings by Maratib Ali Shad

Leadership and Management Trainings by Maratib Ali Shad

Basically, leadership explain and provide us a new mind-set which provide us a unique paradigm of abundance mentality and freedom to choose our response. We need to cope all modern challenges of life, job, business and rapidly changing societal trends.

Dr. Stephen says,

“The problem of leadership today is that managers are still applying the Industrial Age control model to knowledge workers. They fail to tap into the highest motivations, talents, and genius of their people”.

Inspiring author and Leadership authority, Dr. Stephen R. Covey believes that every human is a unique combination of body, mind, heart and spirit. Each person on this earth has different needs of their living conditions, versatile talent of diverse taste, emotional attachments with natural and unlike things, roles and great voice of spiritual intelligence which guide the person throughout his life. This is so dynamic and great paradigm of human dignity.

Our almost every child and adult are studying in schools and university. But we need to think that did we provide them opportunities to learn effectively foundations of spiritual, moral, cultural and social needs. We have developed lot of engineering miracles and multi-million institutions but our students are lack of understanding of all human needs in reality. Our popular life style has born a generation where we read news; 66% Americans are either overweight or have obesity and similar data we have in other part of the world. Every person is under pressure of unwanted things. They are in pain but they have to live with it. We are building thousands of physical fitness gym, however, side by it, we have less number of leadership development institutions where we can develop such humans who can maintain their body fitness, learn to flourish, passion for excellence and live by conscience in every moment of life.

In this knowledge worker age, people are unable to keep balance in their different roles of life. For example, a productive employee could be very smart Manager to create multi-million dollars ideas to his organisation but that employee could not maintain great relation with their spouse. It could be a worse relationship setback!! They are not even proven caring parent or guardian. Likewise, business or technical professionals could have very unique mental approach for becoming successful entrepreneur or highly skilled worker but they are unable to understand their child’s needs. We need to build leaders to cope it. Dr. Stephen R. Covey said;

“When parents see their children’s problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. When a child comes to them with a problem, instead of thinking, “Oh, no! Not another problem!” their paradigm is, “Here is a great opportunity for me to really help my child and to invest in our leadership.”

This is indeed a great leadership paradigm.

Troubled life is also result of heedlessness of Time Management Principles, to do list is not sufficient and was an old method. Now this age demands new approach and new tool sets of keeping balance all tasks for all roles of life which we choose to plan and do proactive. Furthermore, we need to split our years and months into weeks and days, for all individual roles, based on urgencies and importance factor. Dr. Covey said, once;

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” (Leadership Paradigm)

A smart business one may have extra substantial possessions but he or she could lack of meaning of life. They are not able to know about purpose of their life and give the ultimate inner satisfaction for their daily works why they should do it. This philosophical approach of thinking is as vital as earning money or other important work. They may need to study sacred literature or have certain links which indoctrinate them for religious or spiritual faiths which can give them direction of life and accountability as they would need.

As “Accountability breeds response-ability.”

On the other hand, Leaders are also so rich people with certain mind-set who can keep balance in their life, you know why? Because they have found their voice of their personal and professional realms and now they inspire other to find their voices and it will inspires millions.

Hence, Professor Stephen R. Covey define Leadership as

“Leadership is communicating to people their worth and potential so clearly that they come to see it in themselves.”

So leadership is real need of today whatever you have the role of your life.

Leaders tend to be trustworthiness along with their competencies. Professional competencies demands new skills, new tool set and unique paradigm under character groom itself.

Character building is a great challenge of today’s world. Failure as personal or professional roles is in result of character weaknesses and our schools and society have been failed to make a trustworthy person. It effect, often, the personal relationships especially with friends and spouses and also in business environment when Manager or CEO involve in affairs and corruption scandals.

“90 percent of all leadership failures are character failures”.

Basically, character is composition of integrity, maturity and abundance mentality whereas competence build through technical knowledge of certain field or industry, conceptual understanding of things and ideas and how to become interdependent to achieve business or work goals. When character meets with competency, wisdom born. Leader than live by wisdom, act under humility and do by courage.

Leaders believe in synergistic team work where 1+1 is not 2 but 11 or more. Where teams in factory unit, offices and homes earn fruits of synergy every moment. They reinforce strengths and ignore the weaknesses of each other. If people have conflicts at work, home and in politics, leaders transform the issues the 3rd alternative solution which is a higher way out of solution provided by each party. Like Dr. Stephen Said,

“Valuing the differences is the essence of synergy the mental, the emotional, the psychological difference between people. And the key to valuing those differences is to realize that all people see the world, not as it, but as they are.”

Today, most of employee are disengaged with organisational priorities. Involvement of employee can be make sure only by directly emotional attachment with core purpose of the project or organisation. Clearly communicated mission and its derived goals are indispensable for happier workers.

No involvement no commitment!

All principle-centred leaders believe in run their roles of life based on mission statement. Their personal mission are integrated with their professional job roles, family and relationships. Goals, weekly and daily tasks are their water under they live. They use modern technology for keeping their Time Management and priorities but do not indulge in it. They are self-manager and carry powerful life driven character oriented values like integrity, trust, humility, trust worthiness, dignity, optimism, synergy and stewardship. They lead their own life with interdependence style of amalgamation of Vision, Discipline, Passion and Conscience.

This world is turning into intense customer oriented. Every individual and organisation are somewhere are customers of each other. Therefore we need to build a mind-set where this customer oriented market can be satisfied and service must be essence of all passion and spirit.

Like Nathan Eldon said once, “Service is the rent we pay for living in this world of ours”.

Leaders have vision of deep thinking and philosophical foundation the way they perceive the world. They believe in people, watch dreams, have idealistic approach, aware of reality, really helpful for everyone and have capacity to think outside the box. Consequently, they are creative and mature enough to achieve their desired life.

Leaders maintain self-discipline because they believe in natural principles and see synergy everywhere in nature. They know that they need to focus on their mission and goals, constantly, independently through continues hard work and competent values with decisive nature. They executive in their business action plan with realistic and achievable approach.

Also, leaders are passionate about what they do, fearlessly. They are enough sensitive to accept every challenge of their life role, self-motivating and have immense courage to launch personal and business initiatives.

Keeping their vision, discipline and passion, leaders also need a lens through which they can accountable itself. They have great sense of right and wrong which burn them from their inside and they listen inner friend’s voice of their conscience, it always push or pull them in every moment of their life whenever they need of it. This little whispering is called conscience and govern all other three component of the whole-person i.e. physical, mental and emotional or social intelligences within a leader.

If an individual could really believe on these intelligences, along with whole roadmap to live on path of greatness, and find his own voice then it can discover a leader inside you, no matter what age level you are.

Dr. Stephen R. Covey says,

“We are a product of neither nature nor nurture; we are a product of choice”.

And that’s Leadership.

So we need to certain training programs that can build minds of our employees, parents, scientists and professionals who can cope and feel difference in this age of complexity and next age of wisdom. These trainings can have spirit to transformation the lives many individuals who can become source of inspiration of thousands of others and then this light spreads on.

Today multi-million industries and brand companies are investing billion pounds to educate on their employees development so that they can be engaged with purpose and operations of the organisation. Government and private organisations are focusing that how they can develop and transform minds of their workers to meet knowledge worker age economy needs and be cradle of inspiration for next business generation.

I believe that leadership developmental programs are voice of this age and is necessary part of every academia, on top. Individuals are getting blessed by virtue of this new mind-set and learn new skill-set to cope every challenge of new time.

Today, core academic discipline like Business Management has comprehended importance of education of Leadership development to graduates and professionals. Thousands of universities and colleges are announcing hundreds of courses, trainings, seminars and certifications for Leadership growth. Multinational organisation and cooperate world need diversity and vision in their management mentors and workforces to be succeeded their business master plans and financial goals. They are in great need of certain mind-set which can renovate their management into truly and dynamic business leaders.

I have shown you a very quick view of importance of leadership development in business, personal and social roles. There are many other dimensions as awakening calls for Managers and emerging individuals who can train themselves with change of successful paradigm that is need of today and we must need to abolish old successful way of thinking pattern because remember;

“ Nothing fails like success”.

Trainings based on leadership improvement packages and individual effectiveness are in fact fundamental function of today business and innovative world. Emerging enterprises and social organisations need networking and transparency in actions of which they want to achieve their collective dreams. Employees of the organisation want to work in healthy environment where they can fulfil their needs of personal and family economics, learn new skills and unleash their potential, emotionally connected with cause of the organisation with synergistic spirit and with definite accountable inner which whisper them either they are doing right and wrong.

“You cannot change the fruit without changing the root”.

Leadership and Management Trainings – an Effective Paradigm – By Maratib Ali Shad – London

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Signs to be on Path-of-Mediocrity or Failure

In today’s world, everyone is running after success. They do not want to lose, yet they are eager to

You can be at one path either Greatness or Mediocrity (Failure)

Path of Mediocrity

find methods and shorter and longer techniques to achieve success. In this scarcity world, most of people are not successful because their adopted wrong methods to achieve it. Sometimes, they can see and feel their desired positions and dreams, however, they do not know ideal methods how to execute them and get 100% results. They become reactive and lethargic for achieving those things which can get by only following principles and natural laws. If they get some little wins but they could not sustained. In developed corporate world, people are frustrated to cope their challenges even they cannot count them on fingers, either they have too many ambitions or no. They are lost on their ways. They never could not found their voices. They are noise or part of it. Their own voices are lost and even they do not listen or care other. People are furious about their state of minds. They try to share itself but do not have courage to share with other. They are cowardice. They are non-shared and have limited vision. They want to upgrade it but do not know how and hence they are trapped by negative energies and unreal thoughts which deviate them from path of success.  One of their phobia is they do resist any change in life, hence they life and believes are not dynamic.

People have different perceptions about concepts of success. Since their paradigms and perspectives in same situations are different therefore their definitions are different. Regretfully, they do not even listen to their understanding of success. New ages are in progression but these conflicts and trends are increasing. I am wondering that why people do not listen other. Boss, Secretary, Manager, Director, Spouses, Environmentalists, Labors, politician and professionals, all have lost their voices. They are shouting on each other. Societies are lost and their legacy is no longer with them. People do not know what is empathy mean actually. They do not feel for learning.
As far their conscience turn into ego, they lost their trust on people and systems. They have no or doubtful faith on God spiritually. They install heavy packet of envy and Jealousy in their hearts because of inferior complex and egoistic.  Their passions are reflections of social mirrors. They do what ever people are doing and following. They are eyes sees as eyes of other. They are undisciplined and backward cultured. Their vision is limiting believes and not-shared. Their bodies become their own masters and lusty. At the end, they are set-on path of failure or straitjacket.
Their values of not their rather values of other people. Their approach of living is Outside-In. They become happy when they are treated well and vice-versa:

  • I am working for most ungrateful owner of the house who never appreciate my service.
  • I work full-time, I do regular visit Mosque or Church and have many friends but i am alone.
  • I have consulted many people and learned many courses, none of single can fulfill me.
  • I am not paid well yet i am working hard to impress other to increase it.
  • Do not under-estimate my spiritual believes they are very dearer to me.
  • My subordinates are not loyal as i pay and give them more incentives, i am losing my customers and company prestige.
  • My mother-in-law is very authoritative and she criticizes me and i have not relationship with her but pieces of gravels.
  • I am fed-up of financial and social injustice, i am organizing protest in front of parliament.
  • I would provide all necessities to my children even I am unprivileged.
  • My husband and wife have very complicated relation, either one of us can quit it.
  • this world is going to end and my goals are unfulfilled.

These are some little glimpses of general people yet they are wondering for their solutions. I have deep feelings with them. I am compassionate with them.

I believe that there is path of principles and rules of productivity that bring abundance mentality to people for solution of their problems.

I would like to share with you those secrets which have brought changes in the lives countless individuals, teams and organizations. In near future, I would be sharing those basic habits, principles and process of sequences and development which will guide to find your voice. Have you thought that you choose to deviate from path of mediocrity!!!

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Paradigms are so powerful for change – Lets work it.

I often think about different behaviors of people in identical situations and I could never understand until I went through Human behavioral lessons from Prof. Stephen R. Covey. Basically, all people do behave in SEE-DO-GET pattern, it means what people get depend on what they do and what they do depends on how they see the world. That very ‘see’ describes people mental images inside mind covered by brain and are called ‘Paradigms’, intentionally, I discover causes of people

Paradigms are so powerful to change, title image.

Paradigms are so powerful to change, title image.

doing different things in same situations. Every individual behaves and think because of their paradigms, what the meanings this person has defined in their mind. Usually, paradigms are build from childhood and throughout the conscious life. Greater the degree of maturity inside the brain of a person to understand the events and people behaviors, mature and reality based paradigms will be. I am not teaching you psychology lessons but only general understanding which will help you reshape your personal and professional life if you are looking for any turn or solution or break through. People perform actions(play roles) at home , office and in society, all depends on what and which thinking patterns they have in their minds within which they associate good or bad meanings and it all makes their personality. For example, if a newly hired employee could have meanings in the mind about supervisor as typical ‘Boss’ who orders and never listen ‘No’ from subordinates, then it might make employee insecure and suppressed. Because of past bad experiences or negative images about a ‘boss’ usually come from media or society throughout life, hence this thinking pattern will always stay walls between boss and that very employee.  These walls can never be laid down unless employees start to work on their paradigms. In same manner, when supervisors treat their employees as machines and never allow to think and use their own initiative will and give freedom to them, Boss has also wrong paradigms about their assistants or secretaries or subordinates. Because higher position holders in an organization may think that what employee are nothing just ‘a body to follow, obey and act’. It’s very traditional attitude and belongs to earlier Industrial mind-set. So a typical wall, between not only boss and employee but also all people, would become bigger and distant. Dr. Stephen R. Covey says in his book The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness:

“If you want to make minor, incremental changes and improvements, work on practices, behavior or attitude. But if you want to make significant, quantum improvement, work on paradigms.”

In perspective of teachings of Dr. Stephen R. Covey, this current information or knowledge worker age have brought the new set of paradigms and tool-sets to get real success.  Because the old pattern of thinking has been replaced with new paradigms. earlier, a boss used to perceive any change in work or function as ‘problem’ but a leadership-style of paradigm does not see any change as the problem but only ‘opportunities’ to exercise creative energy and solution of many other unseen problems.

Throughout the history of mankind’s technology and ideas, old technological things and ideas were always replaced by new meanings and interpretations of phenomenal of events, things, and people. New knowledge(s) and sciences are emerging just because of change of thinking(s), perceptions and paradigms.

Einstein once told:

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

Childhood experiences, misguidance, immaturity, and illiteracy are among main causes to have weak, unclear and wrong paradigms. We need to understand what we have experience in our personal and professional life, are just our own experience(s) which may be wrongly perceived and misconceived. Anyways, people still rely on their very thoughts. They do not even try to measure and evaluate it. People think that their ideas and definitions about people, things and events are very right and ‘do not try to disturb it’, excuse me! They assume it as their superiority over others. The culture of ego and arrogance may be active. Now question is that how people can know about the correctness of their paradigms. It is so difficult for people to identify and work on it, due to many mental and societal forces. However, I believe if people start to believe in ‘power of principles and natural laws’; that is the whole universe is governed by certain principles and laws and never things can happen beyond it, afterward people will try to guide their spirit and mind accurately, I believe. For example, to get money and material things are the real source of satisfaction and an individual’s social needs, are very common paradigms of people and they associate their happiness with it. But on the other hand, if we evaluate this notion of the principle of love and real meanings of life than this assumption of getting materials seems very weak and immature. Because true love and great ever-lasting inner satisfaction can only be achieved with unconditional love and attainment of material for the spirit of contribution and virtues only.

In multicultural places, people fight over racial and linguistics issues, and these are also mental images which they have about each other. Black man looks at the white man with prejudice because a black man may perceive them as arrogant. In opposite, a white man considers a black man as dirty, ill-mannered and ill-literate. When this attitude is multiplied by many people, community conflicts occur and so on. Similarly, an English man, sometimes, does not respect a Dutch because of ‘Nazis’ and German blame English because of their imperial colonialist approach and it goes on. I think that all world’s issues of differences get worse because of flaws in paradigms which they have associated with each other. It is true that all white, and black skin colors are not mattered of superiority but their strengths. Similarly, languages should not be the source of superiority but only their unique means of communication. I strongly believe that educator and researcher need to publish stuff for their nation in formally and informally about those wrong attitudes which transfer generation to generation is the result of inheriting paradigms.

People who drive their lives with positive thinking do construct their mental images with principles, systematic academic research, studies and reviewing sacred literature. We observe a number of people have the vision, passionate, disciplined in their physical life and with the conscience have always been proved quality thoughts and creative actions because there they have now sense to think and work accordingly and they have also the power to do against social mirrors. It is their constructed paradigms who fuel them enough to reject the path of mediocrity. Whereas principle based rightly guided paradigms leads leaders to the path of greatness. It is need of age. We need to self-determined our paradigms and throw away all prejudices and uncorrected patterns of thinking, the reason why a man is not the product of past, any racial agenda or genetic disease.

 

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Stephen R Covey – Biography

Dr Stephen R   born in 1932. He lives with his wife, Sandra, and their family in Utah; in the Rocky Mountains. Covey achieved international acclaim, and is perhaps best known, for his self-help book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. which was first published by Simon & Schuster in 1989 and has sold around 12 million copies word-wide.

Covey has a Harvard MBA and has spent most of his career at Brigham Young University, where he was professor of organisational behaviour and business management. In addition to his MBA, he also has a doctorate which he completed whilst at Brigham Young University. Dr. Stephen R Covey has received the Thomas More College Medallion for continuing service to humanity and has additionally been awarded four honorary doctorate degrees.

Stephen is also a co-founder of the Franklin-Covey organization, which specialises in the application of Covey’s principle-centred approach to leadership and management. He is widely acknowledged as one of the world’s leading authorities on the subject of time-management. Thousands of organizations across the world, including many of the Fortune 500 companies, have adopted his innovative techniques on leadership, teamwork, and customer-focused service. His best-selling book on time-management, First Things First, co-authored with A. Roger & Rebecca R. Merrill, according to Simon & Schuster is the best-selling time management book ever.

The seven principles he presents in the 7 Habits are not original thoughts – he does not claim to have originated the ideas but simply to have found a framework and a language for articulating the time-less principles embedded into the seven habits. The 7 habits are to be found, he says, in all the major world religions. He believes the principles themselves to be ‘self-evident’, that is, ‘you cannot really argue against them’. His view is that all highly effective people, and enduringly effective organizations, have utilised the 7 habits, to a greater or lesser extent, to sustain their success.

Covey says that the 7 habits are ‘common knowledge’ but, he adds, are not necessarily ‘common practice’. In fact, it could be argued that the habits actually run counter to basic human nature. By our nature, we are reactive creatures and we are inclined to act mainly out of self-interest. But we are also as human beings capable of much higher thoughts and actions and by working hard to internalize the 7 habits we are able to develop a proactive attitude. By so doing, we can take charge of our own destinies and we are capable of exerting influence on other people for the collective good.

Quotations
by Stephen Covey

Actually I did not invent the seven habits, they are universal principles and most of what I wrote about is just common sense. I am embarrassed when people talk about the Covey Habits, and dislike the idea of being some sort of guru.

Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out.

Every human has four endowments self-awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.

I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a “transformer” in any situation, any organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience, respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader.

In the last analysis, what we are communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do.

Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.

Most people struggle with life balance simply because they haven’t paid the price to decide what is really important to them.

Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.

The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.

There are three constants in life… change, choice and principles.

We are not animals. We are not a product of what has happened to us in our past. We have the power of choice.

We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey.

Courtesy: http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/7-habits/stephen-covey.htm

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